Groovy Island Girl

Rambles at 3am ... again

2009-05-29T03:10:00.003+08:00

Its 3am & sleep isnt a friend of mine. If i was in bed right now i would probably be tossing & turning & staring up at the ceiling so i figured lets just stay up and see where my mind takes me. I decided to check out this blog (yes this groovy island girl) blog which seem to have been neglected. I remember back in the day when i use to blog to my hearts content - late into the night. Back then i had an audience someone who loved to read what i wrote. I remember sometimes making him laugh making him go ahh and sometimes i would get some comments from him. In all honesty i started my blog because of him - maybe i guess he had that profound impact on my life, but these days he seem to have disappeared gone - sometimes i wonder what went wrong but i have an idea.

Dont you just hate it when someone leaves without telling you why? Oh well thats another story ..

I actually miss blogging. I miss the familiar. I miss all the things i use to do. Not that my life is not great right now, i am doing things i never thought id do (that is sometimes good & sometimes bad) anyways .. I have grown up in the last few years especially with all thats been hurled at me but it hasnt killed my spirit, it had made it duck for a little while but it came even stronger & more empowered and confident. Its always nice to play the rescuer, to rescue people from their heart ache and like i told a friend if i had gold dust i would use to make the pain of people i care about go away heck while im at it i might as well make the pain of the whole world go away (wishing thinking i know but sometimes it doesnt hurt to dream to hope)..

Writing has always been my passion be it through journals & blogs. But it seems a few years when life got a little overwhelming, i seem to stop. How could the one thing that kept my insanity in check be the same thing that i stopped doing. Maybe I lost a zest for life maybe things happen just so many maybes. Everytime i come up with an idea to write, it just works in my head and little scraps of paper or post its then i just leave them as it is. Trust me when i say there are tons of pieces of paper with ideas that i have been meaning to blog about but never got around too.

Sometimes i attribute my lack of writing to the fact that I have lost people who mattered in my life. These are the people who believed in me and saw me for who i really was. They were the people i could turn too & in not so many words they are able to comfort me put me at ease. These were the same people who gave me something to look forward too, made my life interesting and then there were those who strengthened my faith in my self & gave me confidence. It may have not happened over night but a few years down that road i see that i have taken much of what they have taught me and it has made me who i am today.

My late grandmother has been my source of comfort for a very longtime. I looked forward to seeing her in Malaysia & listening to her stories or just lay next to her holding her hand. I miss the little kisses i get from her and the forcible I love You's. I would tell her I love you baba and she would say I love you too then she would giggle. Its these moments that made life a lot easier. You knew that no matter what happened in your life this was the one person you could turn too & who wont disappoint. Speaking of which i think another reason why i stopped doing the things i loved was because of the disappoints that i have faced. It seem to be strings of it. Coupled with loss you get an island girl on the verge of destruction but that was sometime ago. I seem to be more in control of things though that void that still resides in me still lingers.

Im just rambling & i am seriously getting tired now. All i can think of right now are picnics at the park, flying a kite down by the marina barrage & of a very special person whom i was lucky enough to have established a friendship who in recent days have been my source of laughter & smiles, you could call it something to look forward too but thats another story for another day ..

It actualy feels good to do things spontaneously. Today i let my fingers & my mind do the walking and i came up with this little entry. It does feel good as heavy as my lids are. Much of what i wrote may not have made sense but for me its sort of help me get certain things of my mind.. hmm who knows i might want to do this again ... till i do nite nite world .. :)

time to get real .. or not

2008-12-29T01:01:00.001+08:00

i think i am re doing this list maybe because its really time to be realistic and in setting goals that i am capable of doing i am not saying my current list is not do able its just a little stagnant and at this point in my life these are not things that i would be capable of doing. Hence i am revising this list by the 31st so that i can start on it by the 1st provided i have no plans then or not too tired from the previous night (tee hee)... i am doing this as a personal challenge by the 31st if i dont i cant join my friends on new years eve hehehee .. so here goes ….....wish me luck ..

See more progress on: revise my 43things to make it more do-able by new years eve

Doughnut French Toast

2008-11-14T05:55:00.000+08:00

This morning I woke tempted to try Nigella Lawsons ‘Doughnut French Toast. In other words French toast with a twist and it was topped with strawberry jelly – homemade at it. Since I didn’t have strawberries this morning I used jam instead – made it extra fine and not using as much icing sugar as the recipe required and voila I got me a sweet breakfast so sweet I wish I had someone to share it with hee hee…

According to Nigella Lawson in her show Nigella Express this recipe is all about strawberry filled donuts minus all the hard work and trust me she wasn’t kidding ..

As you can see from the recipe it uses quiet a lot of sugar so if you can’t handle a lot of sweetness I suggest you lessen the sugar to suit your taste buds like I did. I love sweetness but a little too much really unbalances the taste. If you like you could add a little cinnamon which adds a little spice to the mix - sugar and spice and all things nice ...

You can actually have this not just for breakfast but for supper but be warned this is not for the calorie watcher. Nigella had this just before bed talk about being bold

.. So anyways ..

Here is a picture of what I came up with using the recipe and below is the recipe. Happy trying and those with sweethearts – a sweet treat to make for your sweetie lol lord im getting all sweet now *grin*…

Doughnut French toast

Ingredients

· 2 eggs

· 1/2 cup full fat milk

· 4 teaspoons vanilla extract

· 4 slices from a small white loaf or 2 slices from a large white loaf, each large slice cut in half

· 1-ounce butter, plus a drop flavorless oil, for frying

· 1/4 cup sugar

Directions

1. Beat the eggs with the milk and vanilla in a wide shallow bowl.

2. Soak the bread halves in the eggy mixture for 5 minutes a side.

3. Heat the butter and oil in a frying pan/skillet, fry the egg-soaked bread until golden and scorched in parts on both sides.

4. Put the sugar onto a plate and then dredge the cooked bread until coated like a sugared doughnut.

Strawberry Sauce

125gms of strawberries
1/4 cup of powdered sugar
A squeeze of lemon

Put all the above ingredients in a blender. Blend till all are

mixed together and the pour over the toasts on the side oh so

delish!

Happy Cooking!

....am i addicted to the pain?

2008-11-13T18:00:00.000+08:00

Ever so often I spend hours reading the blog of others, I love reading about peoples lives, perceptions and its nice to see how much we all have in common even though were scattered all over the globe. In many ways our hurts, our fears are all the same, our hopes how we love are all similar.. Anyways this line that I came across last night struck a cord with me ….

Do I really love him? Or am I addicted to the pain of wanting someone I can’t have?

Quiet a strong statement.. Do we really hold on to the pain of wanting someone we can’t have? Is there even love involved.. Its human nature that we crave for things and people we can’t have whatever the reason may me. Sometimes it’s like we are holding on to a comfort zone worrying that if we let go we can’t find another?

I’m just throwing things at random, my own perception and not from personal experiences either and ‘C’ don’t get any ideas: P …

Anyways I would love to hear what you guys have to say or comment on this topic …. So fire away …….

Smart Solutions for Nighttime Hunger

2008-11-13T17:37:00.000+08:00

Have you ever had one of these nights .....

Things are winding down for the night. You're in your PJs, cuddled up on the couch with your honey (or a good book!) and you feel it coming on—the tummy rumble. According to HealthGal nutritionist Amy Hendel, you are not alone. "A big complaint of dieters and people trying to maintain weight is nighttime hunger," she says. "If you eat too little during the day, then of course you'll have night hunger. But many people who are eating adequately still find those nighttime hours really tough to deal with."

Hendel suggests warm beverages like tea and diet hot chocolate to calm the cravings. Another option is a small "smart snack" (stick to 60 to 100 calories):

A serving of fat-free pudding
Fruit with a teaspoon of Hershey's syrup drizzled over it
A fat-free yogurt
1 cup of low-sodium vegetable or tomato juice
1 cup of skim milk
3/4 cup of frozen grapes

AHh my night time hunger pangs prayers has been answered .... *grin*

Meantime Girl ....

2008-11-13T06:09:00.000+08:00

Have you heard the term ‘meantime girl? I know I haven’t until last night – not really the best position to be in especially with a guy you fancy but it does happen. I felt a little sad, had a little smile when I read what ‘meantime girl’ was all about.. I would have to admit I have been someone’s meantime girl at some point in my life. Much of what the writer defines I can relate too .. After reading this i could think of a lot of scenarios that could actually qualifies one as a 'meantime girl' all hitting home .. So anyways i wonder, are there any 'meantime guys' too ? …….…

Presenting the rants of the meantime girl ……………….

She’s the one you call when you’re bored because she makes you laugh. She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She’s not the one you call when you need a date to your company’s Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She’s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One". You know the one who you keep around in the meantime.

She’s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don’t look at her as a "real" woman, either. She’s not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She’s too laid-back; too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She’s too understanding, too comfortable – she doesn’t make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she’s cool, and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you’re lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she’ll do just fine. You don’t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don’t have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You’re not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she’ll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her. It won’t bother her that you’ll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you’ve been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She’ll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She’s just so cool . . . why can’t all women be like that?!

But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don’t think she’s good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it’s mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to give in to your needs – she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe she’s too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.

She doesn’t captivate you with her beauty or open doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She’s safe. She doesn’t want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone’s head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do.

She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.

Anyway, yeah. I’m a Meantime Girl. Been one more times than I care to admit. I don’t know the reason, really, and at this point I don’t even care. I just want to let every guy know who’s ever had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot...............

I was dating this guy who I thought was really into me. Then the ex calls and he's outta here. I always end up the Meantime Girl……….

Meet The Brats

2008-10-31T12:41:00.000+08:00

This pass week I got the chance to spend time with my family and like always its fun times no doubt. It’s always nice to see the brats – my nephews and niece – their antics and see how much they have grown – and boy have they. Safa the eldest of the lot is 4 yrs 9mth Ali her younger brother is 1yr 3mths, and the newest addition Yusuf is 5mths. Like always I took tons of pictures of the kids and thought I would share them. Presenting the brats of Straits View ……….

http://www.slide.com/r/oSbN1V7u7z-3NAdnwsbTCXBMDlOTPQ5-?previous_view=lt_embedded_url

Aren’t they just the cutest!

Love is all Around ..

2008-10-18T18:47:00.000+08:00

I found these cute little avatars while i was clearing out my file folders. Its all about celebrating the feeling of love, being in love and loving someone and feeling whole knowing that we have someone in our lives who share the same feelings that we do. It celebrates how the heart can be found in nature .. Its just beautiful little pictures hope it makes all of your days ...

Magical Skies on Saturday

2008-09-13T19:56:00.003+08:00

Today I saw some of the prettiest skies. Never thought id see such colors in my neck of the woods. I was waiting for the MRT at Tanah Merah MRT station and saw some breathtaking sights. The moon was out shining ever so brightly and in the background the sky was colored pinks blues whites all in soft tones. Such a pretty sight that I couldn’t resist taking pictures of them and I was lucky I had my camera with me .*thanks her lucky stars*.

On the other side nearing the town area where the sun was setting another group of colors appeared – pearl golds, peaches, oranges hehee sound like a fruit orchard. So here I present more pictures of the things that make me smile. My collection of colorful magical skies ….

Festival Light Up

2008-09-13T19:56:00.001+08:00

This year’s festival of Eid light up are at two locations – Kampong Glam which is in the city and the other at the heart of Geylang – the hub of the Muslim community. The light up at Geylang was officiated last night where as the one in the city the weekend just before the start of Ramadan. I haven’t seen the lights at Geyland though I did have a chance to go and see the lights at the city and snap my fingers. This year’s lights are really pretty and simple. Kampong Glam, Arab Street, Bussorah Street were lined with colorful decorations of every color. A place of history and culture comes alive this month.

Welcome to my slide show of raya @ the city. The first four pictures are pictures of the start of the lights from the city side. This year they have used fish net like lights and adorned them with Eid greetings from a few languages like Malay, Indonesian, Urdu, Turkish, English & Chinese. That really shows the diversity in the Islamic faith I would think.

Slide 5 has a picture of the ‘ketupat’ just in case any one was wondering what the checkered square thing was adorned on the fish net. ‘Ketupat’ are actually rice cakes – a must for the Eid festival here. It’s made from coconut leaves. The casing is meticulously weaved into a square casing and filled with rice – it’s then steamed till it’s done. This is something I have yet to try to do. Every year it’s my mom and aunt who does this.

On slides 6 & 7 you will see the ‘wau bulan’. Wau bulan as explained in Wikipedia is an intricately designed Malaysian moon-kite (normally with floral motifs) that is traditionally flown by men in the Malaysian state of Kelantan. The greeting on the same light fish net is Salam Aidil Fitri – one of the many greetings we use to wish our friends and our family that is of course in the Malay language.

On slide 8, you will see the Indonesian greeting of Eid – Salam Lebaran. And next to it the symbol of the moon & star. On slide 9 you will see a hat like thing which is called a tudung saji. It is weaved from coconut leaves and used to cover foods. This was popular back in the day though many people still use as it is a symbol of their tradition.

Slides 10 to 13 are the lights of Arab Street. Arab Street has a special place in my heart because this was where my family once had their business. My grandfather built his legacy right here on these streets. And while walking through the place, I am reminded of the many stories I was told.

Slides 14-15 are pictures of the food bazaars that sells a variety of food from local to western right down to the Mediterranean. I didn’t get a chance to sample any of the food because I went there after iftar (the breaking of fast) though there some stalls still open though most of them closed and there people who were just sitting around at the many restaurants there after enjoying a hearty meal.

I walked further right to the end of the street as you will see in slides 16 & 17. I did however make a turn to see snippets of Bussorah St (slides 18-20) from the other side. Slide 21 and 22 are pictures of Arab Street from the other side and as you can see there is a greeting in Chinese too – how cool is that. *smiles*. The remaining slides are pictures of the lights from the road heading to the ECP expressway.

With all its simplicity, I liked the light up this year its pretty and colorful though I am sure the light up at Geylang is on a grander scale. With lights, bazaars and the amount of money that people will be forking out for the celebrations, I can’t help but wonder about that lady with her little girl sitting outside Sultan Mosque begging for money, how the remaining Ramadan will be for them or how Eid will be. During Ramadan, that area is flocked by people who live in poverty. They know that during this month where people are striving to do good deeds, they will give money without any reservation. The people who ask for money here usually old folks – I wonder where their family are, some people on wheelchairs, others with a lot of children, some with their food amputated. It is a heart wrenching sight and at the same time, it makes you reflect – makes you thankful for what you have and in many ways make sure that you don’t go over board in preparation for the coming Eid.

No intention of ending this blog entry on that note, but that is the reality its something that you just cant deny or not think about even if you tried.

Anyways, hope the light up slide show gives the reader a glimpse into the Eid festival celebrations here in Singapore. You can get more information of the raya in the city here …

http://app.stb.gov.sg/asp/new/new03a.asp?id=9043

http://hariraya-thecity.com.sg/

my greatest blessing - my Mother

2008-09-12T06:18:00.002+08:00

Ever so often I am reminded of the strength and fighting spirit of the women in my family. The strength that they show is inspiring and I am often in awe just thinking about. With strength and a sense of independence along side a fighting spirit that puts this generation to shame is a heart so kind and compassion shining through.

The times when my mom was sick in august with her mini stroke and eventual double fall, it was a period of déjà vu for all of us because grandma started out that way when age start showing itself and health starts to deteriorate. But in spite of the pain and having people to care for them hand and foot they fought they fought hard and so did mom and in spite of her being sick she thought of others – showed her love and compassion and giving nature.

With the coming of Ramadan her worry was her inability to fast – she managed the first day but had to skip for about 3 days to fully get herself better and by the 5^th day of the fast she fasted again and have been doing so till now. Her want and he perseverance is truly an inspiration to me. Even though she is not fully recovered, not being able to sit for long hours and has to be hauled around on a wheelchair, she still fights. Just a few days ago she helped in preparing food for the old folks and orphans the Arab association here was hosting for iftar or the breaking of fast.

Ramadan is a time of giving and also a time of reflection and realization. My mom may not be as fit as she was last Ramadan but that fighting spirit still lives in her as does her giving nature. I am writing this because I know I will come to this blog when I feel overwhelmed with responsibilities and the curve balls that life throws at me and I am reminded of this wonderful woman I call mom. I have seen her fall and get back up again – not giving up.

When she was sick those few weeks in August she remembered her promise to my grand aunt who is suffering from cancer in Kuala Lumpur. She promised to visit her but alas my moms own medical condition prevented her from doing so. It bothered her that she couldn’t make the trip; she was upset thinking that my grandaunt would be upset. She felt really bad but got better when she called my grand aunt and explained her own situation – the look of relieve on her face really explained her feelings the few days before.

My mother is a lot like grandma when it comes to fighting and giving. She thinks of others and often puts others ahead of her. She never shows her the hardships she often has to endure – she puts on a happy face and as far back as I can remember she has always been this way.

My mother is the aunt loved by all. They love having her around and often go to her for advice and comfort. She never forgets people’s niceness to her and she makes sure she returns the favor two fold – you could call it paying it forward. This Ramadan she made a list of my cousins and aunties name because she wanted to give them spicy peanut gravy so they have them for either their morning meals or the breaking of fast. She bought little hand towels from Indonesia because she wanted to give them to my cousins – it’s a simple enough gesture but it means a lot because it shows me the wonderful person she is – my love for her has no bounds and it just warms my heart to see do these things for others.

The inspiration for this blog came from a phone call my mom had last night from her own cousin who is deaf and lives alone with her maid. Her cousin called to do the whole Ramadan formalities and then asked for cakes. She said mom made the best ‘kuih lapis’ a spicy layered caked she wanted to order one for Eid so my mom said ok. She also wanted some cookies but this year however mom isn’t making any for sale. So feeling sorry for her cousin mom made some calls this morning to find cookies for her. Her enthusiasm is amazing. Making calls and getting things ready – my mom the lady with a heart of gold. It’s always the little things that she does for others which leaves me speechless and make me want to be a lot like her.

Even though were not always agreeing (due to the generation gaps), we do have out ups and downs (who doesn’t). As I get older I begin to see even more just how beautiful her heart truly is – it shows in all the little things that she does. In not so many words, I learnt so much from her and everyday it seems I learn more. Her compassionate, strength, courage, love for others and her fighting spirit are just some of the traits I truly admire. I know I am truly blessed to have a woman like her in my life to call Ummi – which means mother.

Love What You're Doing

2008-09-10T22:20:00.000+08:00

I can really relate to this write up from Daily Inspirations. It’s about loving what you do even when there are setbacks in your life. There are two things that I love doing baking & writing and I have noticed when life seems to be too overwhelming I tend to stop – loose motivation. I can’t afford for this to happen in my love for baking because it will be my source of income someday.

I remembered a few months ago when someone I know promised me a big cake order, they came over for a cake tasting and consultation. They choose a cake and the favors and only to come back later and tell me someone else was sponsoring their wedding cake & favors so they had to cancel the order. That almost killed my passion for ever wanting to venture into the cake business but mom who has been running the business for over 50 years comforted me and really thinking back this was a woman who has been doing what she loves which is baking & cake decorating for over 50 years and still loving it in spite of the loss of a husband and the illnesses that came her way. That was motivation enough for me to want to continue to do this. Apart from it being a legacy it’s something I love doing so thanks Ummi for being the cake wonder that you are …..

Having cancelled orders is probably a small price to pay compared to having physical challenges or health challenges. I think a bad back is not something to hold one back from baking – nothing a good massage wont fix.

I am very inspired by this write up and I hope it inspires who ever reads this in not giving up your passions and the thing you love to do in spite of the setbacks.

Love What You’re Doing …

You've got to love what you're doing. If you love it, you can
overcome any handicap or the soreness or all the aches and pains,
and continue to play for a long, long time." ~ Gordie Howe

Hockey legend Gordie Howe (1928-), born in Floral, Saskatchewan,
played for 32 years, spanning five decades (1946-1980), more than
any professional athlete in any team sport.

When Mr. Hockey retired on this day in 1980, he held nearly every
NHL scoring record, including most goals (801), most assists
(1,049), and most games played (1,767).

"If you've lost a game and learned nothing, then you've truly lost,"
he once observed.

Howe's passion for hockey began when he was six. Growing up, he used
newspapers for shin pads and old tennis balls for pucks. At 18, he
played for the Detroit Red Wings, then three years later survived a
near fatal head injury on the ice, crashing head-first into the
boards.

That was the first of many injuries for the resilient hero.
According to The Sporting News, Howe in hockey took more than 400
stitches and broke his nose and his ribs. "Gordie's gone through so
much in his career," reflected his wife Colleen. "You name it, he's
had it."

Following reconstructive surgery on both knees, Howe was diagnosed
with skin cancer on his left shin in November 1999. With an
excellent prognosis, the tough legend keeps going. "You find that
you have peace of mind and can enjoy yourself, get more sleep, and
rest when you know that it was a one hundred percent effort that you
gave -- win or lose."

Wayne Gretsky said of Howe, "They always tell you when you meet your
heroes and idols, you walk away saying, 'Well, they're not that
nice, or just OK.' But Gordie, he was bigger and better than I ever
imagined."

~~You've got to love what you're doing

source:dailyinspiration.com

All teary over onions

2008-09-10T19:50:00.000+08:00

Onions are a must in our cooking as it is in the foods the world over. In our cooking we use the red onions and the Spanish onion also known as Bombay onions. We also use shallots because of its slight sweet taste. I feel what makes our use of onions diffrent would be because of the fried onions or as we call it ‘bawang goreng’ in Malay. Bawang means onion and goreng means fry. Fried onions are not the result of the usual browning or sautéing of onions and putting it aside for use – its actually deep fried to a crisp, drained and then kept for future consumption in an air tight container.

We use both the red onion and shallots to make our fried onions. The fried shallots are usually used for garnishing and to add a little extra flavor to the dish whereas the fried red onions are used in cooking in foods like briyani, syam and sometimes even potato cakes.

The shallots equals little fried onions below..

And the beautiful red onions equals these delicious fried onions below ..

The process of making these fried onions are easy enough if you’re willing to cry along the way. The skins are removed and the shallots and onions are sliced thinly ( it does sound pain staking) doesn’t it .. They are then deep fried until crispy. After which the excess oil is drained and the finished product stored in an air tight container.

These fried onions can actually be store bought but nothing beats home made right?. I have never made this but I have watched the domestic helpers at my auntie’s make them. My mom would buy the onions and have these ladies make it for her. I salute them for having to bear so much.. Maybe they are use to it .

If anyone’s curious about the taste of these fried onions, you should really consider making them. All you need are onions, oil for deep frying. When you are frying the onions make sure the flame is at medium. After it’s done, cool it and store in air tight containers. You can even store in the fridge after to prolong its shelf life.

So if you try don’t cry ;) because the end result is worth …

Risking Syam...

2008-09-10T19:30:00.000+08:00

Today I took a risk – not the kind of risks that are life changing or anything just a risk in cooking a dish that I dread – I have cooked it a few times and it didn’t come out the way mom did it – which left me helpless. I love the way she makes it and hers and my late grandma’s version are the only versions I eat – yeah I can be a fussy eater sometimes *grin*..

So anyways the dish in question is simply called ‘masak syam’. To translate it directly it would mean ‘cooking syam’ though it really means a dish from Syam . Back in the say Syria was known as Syam at least that’s my understanding and till this day the older folks in my family refers to Syria as Syam.

Masak Syam or Syam Stew as I like to call it in English, is a simple and delicious dish. Its an easy dish to put together when you have the correct recipe – I obviously didn’t (shame on me heheee). My mom wanted to have that for the morning meal – and I had the daunting task of cooking it. To be on the safe side I asked that she gave me the recipe again and yes I did mess up the first few times probably because I missed certain steps – what was I thinking then………

I have to admit I wasn’t really confident in making it this time round but as I went along and saw that it started to look a lot like how mom & grandma made it I was a happy camper. I didn’t taste it yet so I don’t know how it turned out really it looks the same now it all comes down to the taste.- I am waiting for mom to have it and see what she says., ill update later ..

Masak Syam is something we grew up on. Its part of a long list of family recipes which bring back memories and are worth keeping. It’s like curry but minus the heat. You can even call it a stew. The choice of meat can be either beef mutton or chicken. And it can be eaten with rice or a variety of breads like pita bread, French loaf or whatever bread you have at hand. Masak Syam is tomato base as many of the dishes that originate from the Mediterranean.

For my friends observing the fast you might like to try this recipe – I guarantee it’s yummy. I have included the recipe with this blog entry,,

The measurements are how I make it , because when I was taught this recipe a few years ago I was not given accurate measurements it was a pinch of this or two pieces of this – it seems back in the day cooking was done playing by ear. But this is the closest I can get to accuracy and I hope it turns out just as well ..

Here is my version followed the recipe …

Masak Syam or Syam Stew

Ingredients

300gm beef sirloin thinly sliced about ½ inch thick.

(any choice of meat is fine and any cut)

2 potatoes cut in circles

3 tomatoes (coarsely chopped)

One handful fried onions*

2 cloves

2 cardamoms

½ inch cinnamon stick

½ tbsp cumin power

¼ tbsp black pepper powder

½ tbsp ginger & garlic paste.

(you can adjust the spices to suit your tastebuds)

Ghee (clarified butter)

(olive oil can be used for a healthier alternative)

Salt to taste

Method

Slice meat then boil meat in water until tender.
Once the meat is tender, throw in the whole spices and fry the meat with ghee for about 5 mins.
Mix the cumin power, black pepper powder & ginger garlic paste with a little water to form a paste.
add the spices to the meat and fry for another 3 minutes or until the flavors are infused
Add the tomatoes and a cup of water and cook until the tomatoes are mashed – half way through add the potatoes.
After the potatoes are mashed add the fried onions and about a ½ cup of water and salt. Simmer for about 10mins or until the potatoes are tender or you reached the consistency that you like.

If you like it thick or with a little more gravy you can add in more tomatoes. The tomatoes will give out a golden brownish tone when combined with the fried onions. If you’re wondering what fried onions are, the explanation is on my next blog.

I hope someone tries this, trust me its worth the effort .....

Happy Cooking ....

Evening Sky @ Straits View

2008-09-07T20:46:00.001+08:00

Evening Sky in Johore on Saturday 6th September. Spent the weekend with family & manage to take a picture of the evening sky from the wet wet kicthen while waiting for the call to pray to mark the end of the fasting day.

Food Unites!

2008-09-05T14:37:00.003+08:00

Pictured are the extras for our family's favorite dish 'Bubur Cina' or Chinese Porridge. Its also known as congee and its delish! & thats my mom enjoying a bowl of poriddge hehee..

I want to create a food/cooking blog because I think it would be nice to share recipes with people from all over the world and if there was one thing that could unite the world FOOD would be it … And in recent years I have taken pictures of a whole of food that I have made and those made by others in the family and then there are those which are store bought. I have collected tons of pictures and looking through my Picasa2 (yes folks I have discovered FINALLY the wonderful world of Picasa2 by Google and learning to use it everyday) I find that it would be fun to create a blog specifically for food. It would definitely be a visual feast. (Don’t forget the drool bucket I tell myself)…

Another reason I wanted to do this was so I can have recipes from my current blogs imported to the food blogs for easy retrieval. Trust me sometimes the new recipes that I try I just blog about them and throw the piece of paper away which obviously causes me a lot of hassle when I want to try the recipe again and sometimes it takes forever to look for it on my blog seeing I cover a wide spectrum of topics in my blogs.

So I hope to start a blog soon and it will all be about food – recipes, pictures and not just mine – from friends , recipe books and the many searches I have done and recipes I have collected from the various sites online. Once ive done this goal ill post the link if anyone’s curious what kind of foods satisfies the pallets of the groovy island girl and her fellow islanders ….

See more progress on: start a food blog.

Thinking This Through

2008-09-05T13:32:00.002+08:00

Ive been looking at this for a while and it seems like i have to give up on this goal rather put it on hold for a while in light of the events that have taken place in my life these past few weeks. If anything, its changed a lot of my set goals. I am still trying to get a handle on a lot of the changes though deep down i know i do want to eventually get a degree in early childhood education. Right now i could probably go for short courses on subjects , pertaining to his like speech & drama, phonics, creative writing all which i know can help in the teaching process and in the creative & social development of the pre schoolers.

Saving this for later isnt so bad, if anything i have to look on the brightside because what i have decided to undertake fully is just as rewarding.

Now my focus is with my current job and of course the cake business though i hope in the near future i can realize this dream but for now this goes into my for later box ..

See more progress on: Go back to school for my degree in early childhood education

Blue Skies in JB

2008-09-05T03:48:00.003+08:00

I took these pictures while i was away at my uncles place in Johore Malaysia.. As you can see it was a beautiful day out and while the wind brought the smell of the sea to us, i snapped this picture to give me the full experience of being on an island when i was actually in town though having the coast right at your door step isnt too bad ..

Anyways the skies looked so beautiful that day .. I love the sky- the fluffy clouds, the calm blue sky .. its just so peaceful and the green just add more drama to the day ....

Occasionally some seagulls will fly by most of the time its the little sparrows who hang around waiting for food to be thrown at them ...

Just something i thought id share ..... :) Little things that make me smile ... Hope it brings a smile to anyone reading this too ..

Desire in a bottle ...

2008-08-25T16:17:00.000+08:00

If only desire came in a bottle – well more like what we desire that is life would be really easy for all of us .. Say you desire someone, that desire manifests itself when you drink a bottle of desire – silly I know but it doesn’t hurt to think about it.. In all silliness I might just have the solution – there is a desire in a bottle though not the consuming kind . It’s more of a inspirational kind as you can see from the picture. J It’s a cute little water bottle that carries inspiring words. There is desire, courage, strength and others according to my cousin. I really like the words on it so I decided to post it here and if anyone wants to buy the bottle and if you’re living in Malaysia or Singapore, you can find the bottle at the household department at UO at Tebrau City.

When you truly desire something – it will inevitably appear because it already exists as not-yet manifested energy in your heart. If you imagine it, it is possible. If you want it with all your heart it is inevitable

– Christopher Moon

“Need” comes from the belief that you are not enough the way you are, so you try and get something from the outside that will “complete you”.

“Desire” is the power of your soul, calling you to recognize that you have everything you need inside you & urging you to manifest in the world all the riches you posses within,,,

“When you desire something with all your heart, you are given the power to fulfill that desire”

So what does your heart desire? *smile*

Ramblings From Straits View..

2008-08-25T13:46:00.000+08:00

I am sitting here at my uncle’s place in Johore Malaysia attempting to update my 43things but I just can’t seem too. I am surrounded my 13mth old nephews antics – he is walking around the house (in and out) having the time of his life. The maid is running after him all the while. – ill bet she is really tired and it does show on his face. He laughs he screams throws a tantrum that kid really have some energy in him..

On top of all that noise from that little guy, there’s the sounds of television show blaring in two different language s- Malay and English from two separate rooms in the house – one from my moms room and another from the TV room upstairs where my cousin is watching the biography channel. Mom well she’s sleeping and yes with the television on. She sleeps off and on so she likes her daily soaps to be on. I am thankful that she seems to be doing much better now – way better than from two weeks ago. Yes, I broke my own personal record of staying in Johore more than 10 days but it was all worth well it.. In spite of the stresses & fear involved, lessons were learnt, bonds strengthen and numbness followed suit (maybe ill explain later . maybe..)

I do like it here though. Its more inviting than the previous house maybe because of all the sadness that came with it - those who know me should know what i am talking about. Anyways, the family officially moved here on April 27th 2008 - fresh starts and the best thing is that the coast is just down the street and you can actually smell the sea air especially from the back kitchen which is open air. Sometimes when there is a storm coming, you can feel the sea air on your face & the cool air - BLISS i telll you.

Half past five now and everyone else should be back from work soon and there goes my 4 year old whining yet again – whine she does but I love her to bits – she can really be an angel when she wants too. Sweet considerate polite all the good stuff – you can say she is all sugar & spice and all things nice – that must run in the family *grin*…

I have no idea why I am writing about mundane everyday things but maybe I do it’s a nice start of my lack of writing in the past year or so. My blogs have always been about mundane everyday things though sometimes not at all. They involve family, friends, the special people who leave an impact on my life, experiences of random strangers and the world we live in today. In recent months I have learnt the importance of documenting everyday moments – moments with people we love and care about. In spite of it being everyday, there are those priceless moments in between that I want to immortalize. Words and pictures takes us back to that moment in time when we miss someone who have passed on – it helps keep the hurt at bay for a moment and there is this feeling of calm that takes over…..

I hope this is a start of my writing spree – its funny how I miss writing yet find so hard to do so. Its like missing someone and finding it hard to get in touch with them if that makes any sense..

So anyways the blog continues soon...

Life ...

2008-05-01T21:39:00.000+08:00

These days lifes like a peeled potato .. what you get is starchy white flesh - whatever that means ...then you get the red potatoes and then you get the purple potatoes with the purple flesh ..hmmmmmm... me/may2nd08

Chocolate Bruschetta

2008-04-22T23:41:00.002+08:00

When i came across this recipe it reminded me of nutella on soft white bread or just nutella on its on. Never did i imagine chocolate bruschetta with salt - something new. I havent really tried it but thought it was an interesting recipe. I havent had time to do any experimenting in the kitchen seeing that i have been a busy little bee but anyways .. here is a recipe i think thats worth trying especially for the chocolate lovers and its easy and quick too. So good luck. If anyone tries it please please tell me how it turns out ..

Salt enhances the chocolate flavor. For best results, use good-quality chocolate and coarse sea salt. Garnish with fresh mint leaves instead of orange rind, if desired.

Nutritional InformationCALORIES 150(26% from fat); FAT 4.3g (sat 2.4g,mono 0.7g,poly 0.1g); PROTEIN 3g; CHOLESTEROL 0.0mg; CALCIUM 0.0mg; SODIUM 242mg; FIBER 0.5g; IRON 0.9mg; CARBOHYDRATE 25.4g

Chocolate Bruschetta
Recipe is for 10 servings

Ingredients:
1. 10 (1-ounce) slices diagonally cut French bread (about 1/4-inch-thick)
2 .Cooking spray
3. 5 ounces bittersweet chocolate (60 to 70 percent cocoa), finely chopped (about 1 cup)
4. 1/4 teaspoon coarse sea salt 5.
Grated orange rind (optional)

Directions:
1. Preheat broiler.
2. Lightly coat bread with cooking spray. Place bread on a baking sheet; bbroil 3 minutes on each side or until toasted. Remove bread from oven.
3. Reduce oven temperature to 350°.
4. Sprinkle each bread slice with about 1 1/2 tablespoons chocolate.
5. Bake 5 minutes or until chocolate melts. Sprinkle evenly with salt; garnish with orange rind, if desired. Serve warm.

Recipe Source:-Kathy Farrell-Kingsley , Cooking Light, DECEMBER 2007 Chocolate Therapy: Indulgent Recipes to Lift Your Spirits

Amazing .....

2008-04-22T18:55:00.000+08:00

Be The Butterfly ....

The flap of a butterfly's wings in Brazil could set off a storm in Texas. Isn't that an amazing statement? The "Butterfly Effect" theory suggests that the power released by a butterfly's wings can amplify over time to eventually affect weather patterns thousands of miles away. Now imagine the impact of 4 million butterflies...

source:care2

And another AMAZING thing a picture of an ice berg. No photoshop touch ups just a gorgeous picture of an iceberg down and under .. Now imagine if it all melts away and all things of beauty will be gone forever...

remembering giving ...

2008-04-22T02:01:00.000+08:00

29 Day Giving Challenge - what a great idea. I love the slogan 'changing lives one gift at a time'. i am glad i stumbled across this site - feels like an answered prayer. Sometimes when youre in a rut or when your creativity is at a stand a standfill, you need a cause, a direction and some positivity and i am sure i found it. i have to agree with the groups founder that the best way to solve/ alleviate our problems is by helping others and this of course includes all the curve balls that live throws. I feel when you do something nice for someone, your spirits replenished its like going to a spa to get rejuvenated except you know when you give you make someones else's life a tad better.
I am still thinking of what to give so i might start my challenge a day or two later...

While i was looking through the site, thoughts of giving people in my life came to mind. My mother, my late grandmother and my uncle who gives unconditional without expecting or requiring anything in return. It also reminds me of my late grandfather who use to cook for hundreds of people every Friday and of course grandma and the rest of the family was involve in this. On Fridays too he would give out money to the people who came to his shop .. These days my uncle gives food to the people at the mosque every Thursday. My mom's way of giving from what ive seen is compassion. When someone needs something from her she doesnt think twice to help, she is always giving her time to visit friends or family who are sick in hospital inspite of her own health concerns - i feel that that can be constituted as giving too right?

Its really comforting to see there are many giving people in this world and people who actually care - gives hope personally for me and faith in people especially seeing the state the world is in .

Thats it for now a little introduction as to what is going through my mind and what i am thinking of right now. Maybe i can dream of ways i can give and hopefully start my challenge and get family, friends and maybe the little kiddies at school to get into it.

i cant wait to start this :D ..

Thanks Cami for coming up with this great challenge.

peace .

29-Day Giving Challenge

2008-04-22T01:58:00.000+08:00

I found this wonderful site while i was surfing the web a while back and thought i would share it with all of you. I love the idea behind the 29 Day Giving Challenge- Changing Lives one gift at time.

The idea is to give everyday for 29 days and this can be anything from material to non material things, could be gesture could be a physical thing. I cut and paste what this site is all about so you will all have an idea. I dont get anything for blogging about it except just people who can give to others and make the world a better place. The link for the page is as here ... http://givingchallenge.ning.com/

Visit 29-Day Giving Challenge

Commit to give away one item a day for 29 days in a row and share how the experience impacts your life. Why? Because to see the world change, we have to do something to change the world.

GOAL: Inspire at least 2,000 people to commit to the 29-Day Giving Challenge by 9/29/08.HOW: You can sign up and start your own personal challenge any time. Just click on "Sign Up" over in the top right corner of the screen.WHAT: Your 29 gifts can be anything -- material objects, money, your time, smiles or kind thoughts. Sign up now and start giving!

SHARE: Discuss your daily experiences with the challenge here on the forum or in your Personal Giving Blog. You can even post video clips, photos or audio files.

Interesting isnt it?

Love Birds .....

2008-04-21T18:57:00.000+08:00

This is just too adorable .. Love birds sharing a kiss - i wonder if it was a romantic kiss or one with tongue no wait birds dont have tongues hahaha .. anyways this is just way too cute .. hope it makes all of your week .. SMILE .... hmm im wondering why the birds get to have all the fun ...

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2008-04-20T17:10:00.001+08:00

Faith sometimes we just have to always have it and often we struggle with it. Just a thought .. maybe ill write some more later …

See more progress on: have faith

My Personal Escapes

2008-03-26T22:30:00.001+08:00

This is actually a list of things that involves nature, the little things that cant be explained and just about living life in general. I think its all interlinked so I decided to categorize it into life’s simple pleasures and its basically things I would love to do someday and capture it in a separate journal called ‘Life’s Simple Pleasures’ under the tile of ‘My Personal Escapes’ and its all about the little things that gives me peace, smiles, make me feel alive , a free spirit and takes me away from it all …..

The following list was also part of the 43things that I wanted to do, seeing that they are all inter related I decided to put them all together under one goal under my personal escapes..

i want to dance barefoot in a field of wildflowers

I was just thinking how romantic it would be to have a blanket laid down on the field of wildflowers and have a little picnic with someone you love. Then just laying around – talking & laughing…kissing… smiles.. Reading poetry, holding hands & ultimately dancing barefoot with that someone special .. ahh what bliss it is to be inlove & share beautiful moments together…

I am a dreamer of sorts .. free spirit .. that would be me .. wide open spaces ..fields of wildflowers .. hair flowing .. in a cute ltitle sundress barefoot dancing in a field of wildflowers without a care in the world .. eyes closed envisioing only happiness ..

wish on stars, hunt four leaf clovers, and chase rainbows
i wish on stars a lot. sometimes when i am outside and see a real bright star i would just make a wish.While i am at home – knowing that there are a million stars out there you cant help but make more wishes.It gives you a kind of hope and letting you know you are not alone .. and if you believe in your wishes and the stars you wish – you wishes can come true ….
sometimes when on a day you get overwhelmed wishing on a star helps .. i really dont know what it is but it gives you a sense of wonder a sense of peace when you do .. like you know you have gotten your message across to the universe that you want something, that you need help in something, maybe a wish that would help someone feel better … anything .. bottom line is that you have made a request to the universe … wish hard and sincerely …

Ive wished on stars… looked for rainbows never wished on a four leaf clover before. I dont think we have that plant here here … but but i can still wish on stars… This goal seems pretty cool and magical … i think thats what makes life a little bit more magical – stars, four leaf clovers & rainbows all the things that can make people smile .. and give them a sense of hope ..
See the northern lights

swim n make love in a lake at night beneath the northen lights

actualy saw this whole concept for a diamond advertisement on tv, except there she was comparing the diamond ring on her finger to a star in the sky…. i figured just how romanantic to be in that same setting only to be with someone special and swimming and making love in the lake as we watch the northern lights above us … bliss

watch airplanes while laying on an open field with someone special

This would be so romantic .. it could be with someone special , a friend … i saw this on tv and i thought seeing that i loved watching airplanes it would be fun to do this just laying down and watching the airplanes fly over. Holding hands and guessing the kind of airplane thats overhead… Just a fun thing to do ;)

See more progress on: Experience my Escapes

a mexican vacation .....

2008-03-25T19:30:00.000+08:00

A Mexican Vacation - just not mine *grin* ... though I do believe I am in need of a much needed long over due vacation but anyways …….. So 'C" seems to be vacationing a lot and he captured these gorgeous pictures of the sunsets and sunrise for me seeing that i love them and collect them And some pictures of the Mayan ruins and a nice little relaxing spot - some people just have all the fun ......... I have to admit I am a tad jealous then again I am jealous of anyone who gets to go on a vacation on a beach … So anyways, I really loved the pictures and had his permission to post them here…

There was something about he said about the sunrise that got me thinking about having people in our lives. He said and i quote ‘it would have nicer could there have been someone to share it with’ ………. Cant argue with that right? Nature and all the little things in life seems to be a whole lot better if we all had someone special to share it with and especially someone who can appreciate it. And I think personally it’s not just that, its about sharing things, moments, feelings just knowing there is someone there for you at the end of the day to just be there for you and you for them…. I think anyone in a relationship can identify with what I am saying … So count your blessings if you have someone special to share moments so now I am wondering if ‘C” didn’t regret taking his girlfriend along to share those special moments *grin* … Next dont forget too

So without further ado here are pictures of “C”’s vacation .. Enjoy …

Sunsets

Arent they just gorgeous? ….Sometimes I think there no words to describe just how amazing they look ….

Mayan Ruins, Coba

I actually saw this on the National Geographic channel some nights back. Its amazing isn’t it. Just one of the many wonders of the world. I wonder if “C” climbed the 120 steps? Only second to the Chichen Itza with 300 steps. That’s history for you one thing is for sure people of the ancient world were truly strong and resilient in building monuments like that without machines to help them mind you.

The Beach, the chairs the drink …

Need I say more? ……..or yes the view ......

Sunrise

And last but not least the sunrise …. No one else was around according to “C” so he was the sole welcoming committee for the sunrise that morning, a good time to take it all in .. peaceful …

Sometimes You Have too

2008-03-17T16:22:00.003+08:00

I think sometimes even when you dont want to give up, given the circumstance you do. So i am officially giving this up – wanting to be sweetness Asian experience because by the looks of it its not going to happen but there have been better experiences with sweetness even though it didnt reach to the level that i hoped but he is happy now with others and this goes to another page – the goal that is ..

See more progress on: To be sweetness's first Asian experience

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2008-03-17T16:18:00.003+08:00

Again not about giving up the goal – i received a free laptop last year so i am happy with this and everyday there are lots of nicer models of laptops coming up i might get a VAIO still but a diffrent one or maybe a DELL . I love the colors of the dell models so time will tell but for now i am happy with my Compaq named Lappie – yeah i have this tendency to name my most precious things smiles

See more progress on: Buy myself a Sony VAIO® FJ Notebook

Not now ..

2008-03-17T16:16:00.003+08:00

well i am contemplating this i wanted to get one but now im not so sure. dont get me wrong i love tattoos but right now i have a change of heart – maybe next time or when the time is right we shall see. even though i dont want one now i do though what i would like if i do get one grin

See more progress on: Get a tattoo

done

2008-03-17T16:13:00.003+08:00

well not sure if it was me or life that convinced him but he is living his life so its all good. he is a civilian now so i think he is enjoying his life no I KNOW he is enjoying his life .. so good for him :) im sure he has always known that nothing is impossible but i guess it was something diffrent for him …

See more progress on: convince a combat hardened soldier that nothing is impossible

Magnificent Sunsets ..

2008-03-13T00:26:00.003+08:00

Seeing how much its rained here this week i thought i would look for some sun and what better way than my favorite - sunsets. I love looking at sunsets and collecting pictures of sunset. I love how each sunset has gorgeous colors its like an artists pallet. I love the lilac sunsets in these set of pictures. But over all they all magnificent .. Enjoy the view ...

if you cant see the slide show just click here ....

http://www.slide.com/r/IB6jSTtO7j-myaAiaDzU7cfH-igB-xHB?previous_view=mscd_embedded_url&view=original

South Georgia Biscuits

2008-03-12T23:12:00.003+08:00

This was my attempt at making these southern style biscuits which i miss from my school days. I remembered having them at Hardees a very long long long time ago and while i was vacationing in Perth Australia. It was probably called scones in Oz but if my memory serves me correctly they look alike and definitely taste alike. The crumbly feel to it ...ummm yumm..

Anyways i tried this recipe and it tasted ok though I still have to practice the hand forming of the biscuits so i think i should be able to master it after a few tries *keeps fingers crossed*. You can have this with butter or jam or get creative with eggs or whatever else you have in the kitchen. Good luck!

South Georgia Biscuits

Ingredients:
2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 tablespoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup shortening
1 cup whole milk

Directions:
1. Preheat the oven to 450 degrees F (220 degrees C).

2.In a large bowl, stir together the flour, baking powder and salt.

3.Cut in shortening with a pastry blender or by rubbing between your fingers until the lumps are smaller than peas.

4.Pour in the milk all at once, and stir with a large spoon until dough is evenly moist. It should be sticky.

5.Flour your hands, and knead the dough lightly for 3 or 4 turns, adding just enough flour so that it doesn't stick to your hands. Let the dough rest for a minute or two.

6.With well-floured hands, pinch off pieces of dough (about 12) and pat lightly into balls. Don't over work the dough.

7.Place about 2 inches apart on ungreased baking sheets.

8.With floured knuckles, press each ball down to about 1/2 inch thickness.

9.Bake for 11 to 12 minutes in the preheated oven, until browned on the bottom. Serve hot with butter

Brighten up a dark day

2008-03-12T15:22:00.002+08:00

Its been raining here all week in Singapore. Light rain moderate rain it still rained and it rained even when the sun peaked a little out of the clouds. So its cold, wet and a good day to relax. I think its lucky cause its during the school holidays or else i would have a bunch of kids at school who would rather sleep than go to school hehee.. I am not complaing about the rain seeing that i love the rain , im seriously contemplating on playing in the rain *grin* ,, Anyways to brighten up these dark rainy days heres a picture that would definitely brigthen up even the darkest days ...

Sunsets ..

2008-03-12T13:41:00.001+08:00

I have been catching many of these sunsets – weather permitted of course and have attempted to capture these sunsets. Though most of the sunsets i have seen are within my own country and neighbouring malaysia they are still beautiful none the less. The golds, the yellows reds and oranges are just spectacular. I remembered trying to take pictures until it hurt my eye – i knew i had to stop then grin. I dont what it is about sunsets thats so magnetic all i know is that it alaways make me smile and takes me back to some time a long time ago where i always received exclusive pictures of sunsets from a land ravaged by war yet in contrast has some of the most beautiful sunsets. I miss those days …

In conclusion i think for me to capture more sunsets its either i travel which i plan too and then of course be at diffrent places in my own country when the sun sets :)

See more progress on: Watch as many sunsets as i can

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2008-03-12T13:15:00.001+08:00

I havent given up just compiling everything into one entry – these are things which i would love to do because it makes you come alive and set your spirits free…

See more progress on: i want to dance barefoot in a field of wildflowers

Relax ...

2008-03-12T13:07:00.001+08:00

i took up yoga a few weeks ago and it felt great. Its relaxing obviously and releases much of the tension i have been experiencing. Clearing a space and lighting up candles and burnung relaxing oils really helps with this. SO i am glad i did this :D … then i fell off the bandwagon but i started again last night so that counts i think grin I am not as flexible as yet but i am working towards that. I guess i have set some goals a year ago before i turned 35 and now its time to work on it …

See more progress on: take up yoga

Gorgeous Waterfalls

2008-03-09T23:48:00.003+08:00

Waterfalls - beautiful,soothing, the sound it makes as the water cascades down hitting the pool below - amazing and just imagine being in the pool as the water beats down on you .. what an amazing feeling ... and the colors the aquas the blues, the browns and greens that surrounds it ... a feast for the eyes .. Enjoy these pictures of gorgeous waterfalls from all around the world.. take in the beauty and for a moment in time take yourself away ........

http://www.slide.com/r/eFJosJcFzD-MBuIzVdv4dZozD99sEEhS?previous_view=lt_embedded_url

Waterfall Dreams...

2008-03-09T23:30:00.001+08:00

Given a chance i think of my goals/dreams is to be there under a waterfall away from the rest of the world playing in the pool and feel the water fall on me preferbally with someone special .. again one of my many dreams .. I like my little dream world ....

Walking with Awareness

2008-03-07T23:45:00.000+08:00

Walking – that’s something that I enjoy to do. I think walking is more than about getting healthy or getting your 20mins of exercise, it’s about appreciating the things around you. I love walking in the rain only to find I get sick later lol but there is something about the rain that makes you come alive. I don’t think I will ever get tired of talking about the rain – it may seem the same but personally for every time I walk in the rain it’s a different feeling. I enjoy walking too when the moon is full – I love looking up at it while I walk and see how its beams illuminates the sky and then we can see the stars better cause lets face it with the street lights and what not we don’t get to see much of the stars. I enjoy walking too cause it helps me sort out my thoughts, work things out in my mind. I have noticed I feel more relaxed after a walk and this is not just about the mile walk but walks to the market, shops or whatever then again maybe I am thinking too much. Sometimes I think I do – my poor brain on overload….

Sometimes walking can bring a memory a lesson. I know when i walk and see a stone on my path id move it off the path or kick it away. My grandmother always said to do that so whoever else walks and dont see that stone wont trip over it now i have fun kicking stones around - to a safe spot of course.

Enough about my blabs on walking, here is a write up from dailyom.com which I like. It explains walking in a more spiritual sense and how we can make the most of it. J Happy walking …

Walking With Awareness
Mindful Walking

Many of us take the benefits of walking for granted. Each day we limit the steps we take by driving or sitting for long periods of time. But walking even a few blocks a day has unlimited benefits, not only for our health but for our spirit. As we walk, we connect with the earth.

Even when walking on concrete the earth is still beneath us, supporting us. Walking lets our body remember simpler times when life was less complicated. This helps us slow down to the speed of our body and take the time to integrate the natural flow of life into our cellular tissue. Instead of running from place to place or thinking about how much more we can fit into our day, walking allows us to exist in the moment.

Each step we take can lead us to becoming more mindful of ourselves and our feelings. Walking slows us down enough not only to pay attention to where we are in our body but also to our breath. Taking time to simply notice our breath while we walk, through the length of our inhales and exhales, and becoming attuned to the way in which we breathe is taking a step toward mindfulness. When we become more mindful, we gradually increase our awareness of the environment around us and start to recognize that the normal flow of our thoughts and feelings are not always related to where we are in the present moment. Gradually we realize that the connection we have with the earth and the ground beneath our feet is all that is. By walking and practicing breathing mindfully, we gain a sense of calm and tranquility. The problems and troubles of the day slowly fade away because we are in the "now."

The simplicity and ease of a walking practice allows us to create time, space, and an awareness of our surroundings and of the wonders that lie within. Taking a few moments to walk each day and become more aware of our breath will open the door for the beauty of the world around us to come in.

a little blogthings weekend

2008-03-02T21:39:00.003+08:00

Another Sunday passes by. It was a real good day to just get under the covers and sleep all day and wake up just in time for work tomorrow. I took a 30 min nap a while ago – I guess the weather and the excitement of this weekend wore me out heeehee. I feel like goofing off again before the seriousness and the goofiness of the kids at school take over tomorrow. I went over to blogthings and decided to do some fun tests and see what test central has to say about me. The results are below laugh if you want cause lord knows I was … :D

I am a child at heart looking at things for the very first time. Explains why I teach and get along with the little munchkins at school. I took this test and this is what the results heeded … tad ah ………

Your Inner Child Is Surprised

You see many things through the eyes of a child.
Meaning, you're rarely cynical or jaded.
You cherish all of the details in life.
Easily fascinated, you enjoy experiencing new things.

How Is Your Inner Child?

DO You go for brains or body test .. LOL I don’t even know how to answer this one. I would say in all honesty it doesn’t really bother me. I think simplicity down to earthiness and a sense of humor is crucial but hey a great bod and brains is always a plus *grin* though not a necessity. Smarts are good too. So let’s see what the test results yielded … tad ah

You Go For Brains!

You want a guy with a big... brain.
And of course it would be nice if he were a total hottie, but you're not counting on it.
What's on the inside is what counts for you. (Besides, you can always change the outside later!)

Do You Go For A Guy's Brains or Body?

I think some of the tests here are pretty lame and some are rather amusing. I took what’s your true love’s name test and it returned a woman’s name as my true love. Hello im straight lol …. I like this one just because it’s funny. The pick up line that would get a man. The respond is just to cute ..

Your Pick Up Line Is

Are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see!

What Pick Up Line Will Get You a Man?

They actually have a are you pregnant test lol need I say more about the lameness of that? lolol I better not air my thoughts I might get into trouble. Tee hee.. Oh lord they even have a who is your celebrity boob twin test lolol im so laughing now …

I think I know why I like color purple in all its shades. I took the what kind of passionate woman are you and this come back for me ..

Your Passion is Purple!

You've got a ton of passion, but you don't always wear it on your sleeve.
If something truly excites you, you let your inner intensity shine through.
But otherwise, your passion tends to morph into energy ... which you never lack.
You're a balanced woman, knowing when to turn on the fire in your heart.

What Type of Passionate Woman Are You?

I like Spring but am I really a woman of spring? Heh heh the test thinks so ..

You Are Spring!

Hopeful
Playful
Sweet
Fresh
Airy

What Season Woman Are You?

So I thought ill end this goofying off moment with this cute little test that tells me what my name means lol .. not sure how true it is but its cute .. I guess different websites have different meanings as to what iffa means lol but either way its lotsa fun :D …

What Iffa Means

I is for Infinite Love

F is for Fluffer Nutter

F is for Flawless

A is for Angel Face

What's" Your Pet Name?

Beginning Today ...

2008-03-01T02:28:00.000+08:00

One of those inspirational sayings i found in my quotes scrapbook. I really like this one because i can relate to it in a lot of ways & personally befitting for this new chapter in my life ...Hope everyone enjoys this..

Beginning Today .....

Beginning today I will no longer worry about yesterday. It is in the past and the past will never change. Only I can change by choosing to do so.

Beginning today I will no longer worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow will always be there, waiting for me to make the most of it. But I cannot make the most of tomorrow without first making the most of today.

Beginning today I will look in the mirror and I will see a person worthy of my respect and admiration. This capable woman looking back at me is someone I enjoy spending time with and someone I would like to get to know better.

Beginning today I will cherish each moment of my life. I value this gift bestowed upon me in this world and I will unselfishly share this gift with others. I will use this gift to enhance the lives of others.

Beginning today I will take a moment to step off the beaten path and to revel in the mysteries I encounter. I will face challenges placed before me with courage and determination. I will overcome what barriers there may be which hinder my quest for growth and self-improvement.

Beginning today I will take life one day at a time, one step at a time. Discouragement will not be allowed to taint my positive self-image, my desire to succeed or my capacity to love.

Beginning today I walk with renewed faith in human kindness. Regardless of what has gone before, I believe there is hope for a brighter and better future.

Beginning today I will open my mind and my heart. I will welcome new experiences. I will meet new people. I will not expect perfection from myself nor anyone else: perfection does not exist in an imperfect world. But I will applaud the attempt to overcome human foibles.

Beginning today I am responsible for my own happiness and I will do things that make me happy . . . admire the beautiful wonders of nature, listen to my favorite music, pet a kitten or a puppy, soak in a bubble bath . . . pleasure can be found in the most simple of gestures.

Beginning today I will learn something new; I will try something different; I will savor all the various flavors life has to offer. I will change what I can and the rest I will let go. I will strive to become the best me I can possibly be.

Beginning today. And every day.

- Penny Jacqueline White

Southern Comfort

2008-02-29T22:08:00.003+08:00

I love the South. From what I have seen and read about it, I am so intrigued by it. Its history, its culture and of course the Southern accent. I don’t know but there is something appealing about and of course how can we over look the Southern hospitality. I sometimes wonder what it is about the South that such a draw – maybe its from reading Gone With the Wind heehee..

Anyways with the South comes its great Southern cuisine. I remembered having my first test of Hardees biscuit back in the day – the restaurant has since closed. I can still remember the taste and the texture and with the age of the internet where you can get all sorts of recipes from anywhere at your fingers tips I scouted for the recipe and found one which I tried – talk about reliving the good old days. I tried my hand at South Georgia Biscuits and I sure enjoyed them I am obviously looking for more biscuits recipes to try. There is the fried green tomatoes – the dish not the book, southern fried chicken and I think its through Southern cooking that I learnt about buttermilk . I love that stuff great in chocolate cake – makes the cake soft & moist… *drools* …

While I was at the baking supply store I saw some beautiful pecan nuts, and thought about making pecan pie, when I looked at the recipe and the amount of sugar used I kind of got scared heehee.. For me when I look at a recipe, and read the ingredients used for some reason its like I can almost taste it. I know I am probably just weird that way but anyways, I might try the recipe when I have family or friends over because I know people who rave can appreciate it.

Another Southern recipe that i tried was Red Velvet Cake. I did it for Mother's Day last year and my late grandmother enjoyed it. She even tried to feed me some so sweet isnt it. Red Velvet cake is basically chocolate cake with red coloring - hah i just ruined the suprise, its usually made on Valentines day.

This blog is not so much about my experience with Southern cooking but more about what southern food is all about. I have posted this write up from my favorite cooking site allrecipes.com and listed links to some recipes that’s worth trying. Hope you guys get some info and will try them.

Southern Comfort

By: Kelly Brant

If comfort food is your pleasure, you can't get any more soothing than good ole Southern cookin'

A Cuisine of Many Cultures

Southern food has a history as rich as the gravy that tops the flaky buttermilk biscuits on Southern breakfast tables. The cuisine may have the reputation of being calorie-, fat- and sugar-laden, but the food of the Deep South is a combination of culinary heritages from around the world.

European, African and Native American influences make up the flavors and cooking methods of southern food.

The Native American influence is evident in the wide use of corn--from corn bread and grits to corn fritters and oven-fried corn--that has always been a staple on the Southern table.

Notable African contributions include okra and black-eyed peas, while the popularity of deep-fried foods can be credited to both African and Scottish influences.

What is Southern Cooking?

Southern food is home cooking, comfort food, Creole, Cajun, Carolina low-country, soul food and Tex-Mex. It includes an abundance of fresh vegetables, rice or corn, inexpensive cuts of meat (usually pork or chicken) and fresh seafood.

Popular Southern dishes include barbeque, chicken-fried steak, catfish, smothered pork chops, black-eyed peas, grits, biscuits and gravy, fried green tomatoes, collard greens, okra and sweet potatoes. And no Southern meal is complete without libations, especially sweet iced tea and mint juleps.

Pecan Pie

Southern Fried Chicken

Living in High Cotton

Big country breakfasts of eggs, biscuits and gravy, sausage and grits, and supper plates of chicken-fried steak, corn bread and collard greens provided farmers with the fuel to work from sun up to sun down in the scorching heat and humidity of the South. But these meals were not just nourishing: they were also economical.

Thoughts of the pre-Civil War South may evoke images of sprawling plantations, but in reality most Southerners were subsistence farmers who relied upon their own harvests to feed their families. Many Southern dishes were created out of necessity and frugal ingenuity.

Redeye gravy, for example, is made with pan drippings and leftover coffee.

Key lime pie is another such dish. With very few cows in the Florida Keys, fresh milk was not readily available for pie baking. When sweetened condensed milk was introduced in 1856, it was natural to combine it with Key limes, creating the South Florida favorite.

What's for Supper?

Fresh fruit cobblers and pies are popular Southern desserts, the most famous of which include Florida's Key lime pie and Georgia's pecan pie. Pecans are a key ingredient in many Southern dishes, from New Orleans pralines (pronounced PRAH-leens) to Mississippi catfish. True Southerners will tell you authentic southern cooking is an art form passed down from generation to generation with little girls helping at the apron strings of their grandmothers, but anyone can enjoy a taste of the South with the right recipes.

Key Lime Pie Hush Puppies

Puttin' on the Grits

Whether you like them buttery or cheesy, grits are undeniably Southern. And nobody knows grits better than the folks in St. George, South Carolina--the per capita grits consumption capital of the world and home of the annual World Grits Festival.

I have often wondered what grits was so I Googled it and came back with this. The description of grist according to wikipedia is ..

Grits

Grits is a type of corn porridge, which is common in the Southern United States consisting of coarsely ground corn. This is similar to many other thick maize-based porridges from around the world such as polenta. It also has a lesser resemblance to farina, a thinner porridge.

Hominy grits is another term for grits, but explicitly refers to grits made from nixtamalized corn, or hominy.

Yellow speckled grits is also very popular[citation needed] in the southern states, named for its the black specks in its yellow body.

Traditionally the corn for grits is ground by a stone mill. The results are passed through screens, with the finer part being corn meal, and the coarser being grits.

Grits

Southern Style Biscuits

Fried Green Tomatoes

The food looks yummy don’t it. Anyways here are some recipes links if anyone’s keen on trying making southern food.

http://southernfood.about.com/library/recipes/blidx.htm

http://www.southernconnoisseur.com/recipes.html

http://www.foodieview.com/food/recipes/southern.jsp

Have fun learning & discovering …….

Let Me Be Your Muse

2008-02-29T21:37:00.003+08:00

Let me be your muse tonight ………… So the song says and I agree. It’s bold, a little provocative , sexy with little moments of innocence and cuteness and out right I want you bad kind of song. I think many women can relate to this song of wanting to be a mans one and only. Men have a tendency to hide how they really feel (no pun intended guys) lol and I guess sometimes women have to take drastic measures to find out what he really thinks and feels about her and to to get there she needs to cook him make his bed so the song says.

I just really like the song. The beat, the words what it means. I have to admit ill like mean this much to a man sometime - I can always wish and dream … Really read the words soo emm err can I be you muse tonight umm not just tonight *grin* ………,………

Hey You ………

I'd like to be,
the kind of dream you'd never share,
To be your boss and to be your maid.
Your shaving cream,
your razor blade.
The buttons of your shirt,
your favorite underwear.

I'd like to be,
the only thing on earth that makes you cry,
the only thing that makes you happy.
Soon you will see,
that no one else but me,
Can take you this high,
and soon you'll make your last name mine

Hey you,
making an offer that no one could ever refuse.
Don't play the adamant
Don't be so arrogant.
Can't you see I've fallen for you

Hey you,
making an offer that no one could dare to refuse.
Don't play the adamant.
Don't be so arrogant.
Let me in,
let me be your muse tonight.

I'd like to be,
the first white hair upon your head.
To be your cherry pie,
your daily bread.
I'll cook for free,
I'll make your bed.
If I can know the things you thought and never said.

Let me in let me be your muse, be your muse tonight!!!

Cool Jewels

2008-02-28T23:30:00.004+08:00

Cool Jewels Ice Tray ..

Received this in my email and thought that was so cool and oh so pretty. Ahh diamonds a girls best friend in this case ice shaped gem stones which look like huge diamonds. This would be fun for a girls night our or for those hinting on your boyfriends lol that was what the actual email sent – thought it was really cute. This product can be found at www.perpetualkid.com

Dahling...everyone knows that ice cubes are a girl�s best friend! Just fill this food-grade flexi ice tray with water or any kind of juice, and freeze.

Then pop out the three-dimensional COOL JEWELS and bling out your beverage!

Freeze up a batch for your next party and spread the wealth!

Watching A Sunrise

2008-02-28T23:25:00.002+08:00

"Watching a sunrise, we open ourselves up to the beauty that nature creates, knowing it will never repeat itself just like this again." ~ Jake Rajs

A simple sentence like ‘Watching A Sunset’ can trigger thoughts, ideas, dreams. The mind seems to work over time when the sentence watching a sunset is concerned at least in my mind at this point in time. Watching a sunset can bring about a smile, a memory or just things that we could possibly think off that involves the sunrise – romance, family times…

the sunrise is like a magic ball when it comes up, its rays creep through our blinds or curtains, or the rays pointing straight on our patios, our gardens, behind the trees, the majestic looking ball slowly coming out from beneath the trees across from the lake, when on a boat or ship in an ocean or on the beach where the sun seem to be coming out of the water. The rays the multitude of colors and how it breaks up the dark clouds is truly amazing. It is as though ones heart is opened and light is shining out of it for its full of happiness ……

It brings back memories of breakfast with grandma and the rest of the family as we sit at the patio in the early hours of the morning watching the day begin. Memories of waking up in the middle of the sea while vacationing some years back – the smell the sounds and sleeping in a wooden house we could see the rays of the sun coming through the gaps.

It creates of thoughts of waking up with someone special on a cruise to nowhere, huddled together watching the sun come up or waking up next to a loved one on the beach cuddled together under the blanket.

I was inspired to write this blog by those simple lines ‘watching a sunrise’ which I received from my favorite site dailyinspirations.com. What started out as a simple quote took me away for a while to come up with memories & dreams.

I have included some pictures of sunsets I found online and included quotes with them. Some of the quotes coincide while others down but it all describes the wonders and beauty of and nature.

To stand by the beds at sunrise and see the flowers awake is a heavenly delight. ~ Celia Thaxter

There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope. ~ Bernard Williams

The individual human is still the creature who can wonder, who can be enchanted by a sonata, who can place symbols together to make poetry to gladden our heart, who can view a sunrise with a sense of majesty and awe. ~ Rollo May

The grand show is eternal. It is always sunrise somewhere; the dew is never dried all at once; a shower is forever falling; vapor is ever rising. Eternal sunrise, eternal dawn and gloaming, on sea and continents and islands, each in its turn, as the round. ~ John Muir

Nothing is more beautiful than the loveliness of the woods before sunrise. ~ George Washington Carver

For me optimism is two lovers walking into the sunset arm in arm. Or maybe into the sunrise whatever appeals to you. ~ Krzysztof Kieslowski

He who binds himself to a joy does the winged life destroy; but he who kisses the joy as it flies lives in eternity's sunrise. ~ William Blake

I hope these pictures have brought sunshine to your days , smiles on your faces .& inspiration to light your day …Have a great day!

Book Tags

2008-02-28T20:12:00.001+08:00

I love books. Just one of my favorite things. I could be like Oprah start my own Iffa’s Favorite Things website hehee.. anyways, I love to read them and own them as with many other people I am sure. I remembered splurging my first paycheck on books which always made me really happy.

Over the years and in between moving from grandma’s to grandma’s and finally my own and my own place (yeah I moved twice) I have built quit a collection. I was told I still had books over at grandma’s – have to make a note to pick those up….

Anyways to the point of this blog entry, as an extensive a collection as I have I have realized that books which I loan to friends and family don’t seem to make it back to my library which honestly irritates and sometimes I don’t even remember who I loan them too. I remembered once actually treating my book collection like a library with me as the librarian taking notes on who loaned what and when but then I figured it was not right to do so .. I trust that friends and family would return them back but hey they don’t well anyways …

I was going through my stuff old journals and stuff I found these cute little book tags – I am not wrong it was from an old issue of Oprah. It’s a nifty little idea. It has quotes on reading and books and at the end of it, it has a little name identifier .. “From the Library of ……” I guess this way your books don’t get lost and whoever borrowed it will be reminded to return back.

You must be wondering why make a big deal – well I love my books as much as I love writing and honestly speaking I haven’t tagged my books – why? I don’t know. Just because I suppose.. But if anyone is keen on it you can use it using colorful construction paper and colorful markers. Come to think of it ‘Post Its’ works great too. I think you can design it or change the name identifier slogan to whatever you want. Just a thought …

Just in case anyone is wondering what I am rambling on about well here is a picture of it ..

Cute huh .. Anyways if I decided to tag my books ill probably post a picture of it here .. and if anyone else does please can I see? …. *grin*

Here's a fact ...

2008-02-27T23:00:00.000+08:00

Umami

Sweet, sour, salty, bitter and umami?

Referred to as the "fifth taste", umami describes that full-flavored, meaty, savory sensation that you can't quite put your finger on. It creates what chefs call "mouth-feel" for a super-satisfying meal.

Eating foods rich in umami, such as parmesan, mushrooms, chickpeas and anchovies, will leave you happy as a clam for just a few calories.

Realize

2008-02-26T23:45:00.002+08:00

Bubbly’ the cutesey song by Colbie Caliat is one of my favorite songs and her next single ‘Realize’ is not exception. I enjoy her laid back, down to earth, free spirited sounds if that makes sense. Music to me is something that touches your heart your spirit your soul with its tunes as well as it words and these two have got me so far. I love the words especially. On top of the words the video is just as nice. Correct me if I am wrong but both these videos have beautiful scenes of nature – one of the forest and another of the coastline and the beach. I don’t know in some strange way, I dream of places like these and the romance that it brings with it …

Anyways, as with every song tells a story so does this though its not my story though more like stories of people I have crossed paths with. Its sometimes sad and a lot of times it ends up with happy endings if we “realize’ things soon enough …

I included the song as well as the lyrics. Trust me its worth listening too and worth looking deep on the meaning of the song. Enjoy!

‘Realize’ by Colbie Caliat

Take time to realize,

That your warmth is. Crashing down on in.

Take time to realize,

That I am on your side

Didn't I, Didn't I tell you.

But I can't spell it out for you,

No it's never gonna be that simple

No I cant spell it out for you

If you just realize what I just realized,

Then we'd be perfect for each other

And will never find another

Just realized what I just realized

We'd never have to wonder if

We missed out on each other now.

Take time to realize

Oh-oh I'm on your side

Didn't I, didn't I tell you.

Take time to realize

This all can pass you by.. Didn't I tell you

It's not always the same

No it's never the same

If you don't feel it to.

If you meet me half way

If you would meet me half way.

It could be the same for you.

Women's Thoughts

2008-01-24T18:54:00.000+08:00

Some light hearted humor for the girls .. I think we can alll agree with some of these thoughts from other women ..*grin*. Hope this one makes you smile girls sorry its not a half naked fireman with a buffed up bod ….. ;)) ….

Women’s Thoughts!

Insanity is my only means of relaxation.

Reason to smile: Every 7 minutes of every day, someone in an aerobic class pulls a hamstring.

Women over 50 don't have babies because they would put them down and forget where they left them.

One of life's mysteries is how a 2 pound box of candy can make a woman gain 5 lbs.

My mind not only wanders, it sometime leaves completely.

The best way to forget all your troubles is to wear tight shoes.

The nice part about living in a small town is that when you don't know what you're doing, someone else does.

The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight because by then your body and your fat are really good friends.

Just when I was getting used to yesterday, along came today.

Sometimes I think I understand everything, then I regain consciousness.

I gave up jogging for my health when my thighs kept rubbing together and setting my pantyhose on fire.

Amazing! You hang something in your closet for a while and it shrinks two sizes!

Skinny people irritate me! Especially when they say things like, "You know sometimes I just forget to eat. " Now I've forgotten my address, my mother's maiden name, and my keys. But I've never forgotten to eat. You have to be a special kind of stupid to forget to eat.

A friend of mine confused her valium with her birth control pills. She had 14 kids, but she doesn't really care.

They keep telling us to get in touch with our bodies. Mine isn't all that communicative but I heard from it the other day after I said, "Body, how'd you like to go to a class in vigorous toning?" Clear as a bell my body said, "listen witch... do it and you die."

I read this article that said the typical symptoms of stress are eating too much, impulse buying, and driving too fast. Are they kidding? That is my idea of a perfect day.

I know what Victoria's Secret is. The secret is that nobody older than 30 can fit into their stuff.

If men can run the world, why can't they stop wearing neckties? How intelligent is it to start the day by tying a noose around your neck?

monday musings ...

2008-01-21T18:22:00.000+08:00

I have to admit today all in all was a great day. I think what I have learnt is that if you set your mind to, it does manifest itself. The working power of the mind is truly amazing. Last week wasn’t the best of weeks but it was ok – maybe I was expecting out of the week but anyways that was what it was last week. But seriously I shouldn’t be complaining at least I don’t risk being blown up or have curfews imposed on me where I am. We can say our week wasn’t the best but when we really look at it others in places that’s being plagued by war & occupation I think they are grateful that they can make it through the day safe….. anyways …

So come this week I told myself start the week in a positive note and believe that it will be a good week ahead with minor glitches and I usually Monday is fretted upon by some but I find it positive and up lifting – maybe its how you brush things off or how you handle encounters for the day so anyways …

I came home to a little tea party held by mom and her cousins. I thought it was cute – all these mature ladies sitting around a table drinking coffee and having what I call local tea time favorites like banana fritters, a kind of salad called rojak with accompanies the fritters, and then there were those brownies (LOW FAT) from yesterday, lets see what else .. umm some jelly with fruits in a bowl, and mashed banana fritters or jemput-jemput. It was a table full of delights so I decided to join in by having an early dinner of leftover soto from yesterday another all time favorite. While enjoying my piping hot bowl of soto, I realized they were busy talking about peoples children, how evil some parents were so I raised an eye brow and out of curiosity asked them whose kids are you talking about? And guess what??? They were in fact talking about the television drama hahahah .. I just laughed at them. I said to them wow, it was if you were talking about people we knew.

They amuse me to no end, watching them talk about these dramas it was as if they were talking like its happening in their own lives or to the people they know. My mom and her cousins are fond of Indonesian dramas which they follow religiously obviously. I actually subscribed to an all Malay movie & drama channel for mom .. Keeps her happy makes her happy and in some weird stimulates her mind which she needs at her age. The thing is when they meet up out side like say to go shopping they would be discussing some of these shows. They have the schedule of the shows they enjoy and I have an aunt who would actually hurry back just to catch her favorite show. What is with these women and their drama? *grin* But hey if they are happy than its all fine with me ..

Did you know today is national hug day? Cool huh. I actually received that in my email box and figured it was pretty interesting. So with the magic of copy and paste the little write up is right here …

Did you know...

... that today is National Hugging Day (founded 1986)? This celebration of hugging has been embraced internationally in places such as the United States, Canada, England, Australia, and Germany! Schools, nursing care facilities, hospitals, and numerous other groups and organizations jumped in and held-on-tightly to this exciting, family-friendly event! Share hugs with anyone willing to accept them. :-)

So anyways that was it my day delightful in so many ways starting with hugs in the morning and smiles to end the day .. But before I do here is something my friend Julia sent me today .. Its one of those you have to send it back to certain number of people in return for something wonderful in your life. Ok I am not much of a believer in this but there is are things that I have wanted for a long time to happen to happen lol good things of course .. a girl can hope so anyways I decided to paste what she sent me all of it .. and yes I did send it to 4 people ;)) .. and I hope they send it back to me for this to work … (just having a little fun here…)

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you can't get them back. So I'm gonna tie you to my heart so I never lose you. Send this to all your friends including me and see how many you get back. Send this balloon to everybody you like You may also return it to me.?? If four balloons are returned to you, something you have been waiting for a long time will happen!!!!

Ok ive had my fun .. peace all ..

Hugs & Detox

2008-01-20T23:58:00.000+08:00

The most unlikely combination of detox and hugs for a title, but that’s what this blogs all about actually – detox and hugs. Found a simple detox & healing recipe in my recipe figured I would try it out. I just realized today was cooking day talk about de stressors. Cooking, baking and cleaning are great destressors I think. Its like when you clean you’re in a world of your own – being domesticated isn’t so bad now is it .. especially when you see the fruits of your labor anyways, today that was what today was all about and yes I am actually sleepy and its only nearly midnight, an early night for me today a nice change really, who knows maybe I might even get into the habit of going to bed early than what I think is early for me anyways ..

So another weekend comes to an end ….. school starts tomorrow third week into the new year – wow talk about time flying. I am sitting here enjoying a nice cup of home made herbal drink for detoxing, reading and just pretty much unwinding. I guess I still multi task when it comes to relaxing.. Next week will be a pretty busy week for us at school, preparing for the Chinese New Year Celebrations, Valentines Day soon after and then of course we have our first term evaluations for the kids and the teachers alike. I do believe management wants us to be up to standards every year, though this does not determine promotions or pay raises, it still is recorded. And all this will be happening just before the first term school holidays in March – which is still ways away but time to fly when you’re having ‘fun’ *grin*..

And so back to the detox drink it’s a simple and I have to admit really delicious drink. When I was cooking it, and saw the color and the strong smell of turmeric I panicked and it brought me back to the day when I had to drink just the turmeric juice mixed with galangals trust me not delicious but its suppose to be good for you so anyways this one proved me wrong familiar smells were not valid because when maple syrup and lemon juice was added it tasted great and what do you know its good for you too and rest assured it makes you sleepy or maybe I am just tired who knows haha. Anyways here is the recipe for those are keen on trying .. Its fast its simple and you can get all the ingredients from your own kitchen ..

Ginger Healing Detox Tea with Turmeric

2 cups water

½ tsp powdered ginger

½ tsp powdered turmeric

1 tbsp maple syrup

Juice of ½ lemon

Directions:

1. Bring water to a boil and add powdered herbs

2. Simmer for about 10 mins.

3. Strain

4. Add maple syrup and lemon.

5. Drink warm.

Simple enough right? Delicious and good for you. When you drink it think of it as an adventure something exotic :..

The hugs part of this blog entry is something I was reading from gagirl.com. She has a page on hugs and the many different quotes and explanations of what a hug does. I agree with her seeing that its hugs galore everyday at school. It just makes your day and it’s always nice to share these hugs with people who matter even though they can feel it physically the spiritual sense of it is felt. *smile*. Hugs makes you smile, makes you feel safe, makes you feel warm what can I say it’s a feel good feeling all over. The feeling of a hug is one and touch is another, the warmth of another human being, the care of comfort they offer it does wonders to the soul ..

SO hug someone today it will make their day and yours.

Just before I end this blog entry here is a little quote from that page the last quote from the lot …

A Hug Is Two Hearts Wrapped In Arms

~Unknown

On that note I am off for the night .. Good night world have a great week ahead .

Woman's Motto for 2008

2008-01-13T21:14:00.000+08:00

This is one of those words of wisdom that has been passed on around the next for a while now. This i received from my cousin zareen (yeah the one who loves forwarding ;)) ). Sending it out to all you wonderful ladies out there .. Enjoy this and live by it .. have a great weekend...

Someone will always be prettier.
Someone will always be skinnier.
Someone will always be smarter.
Some of their houses will be bigger.
Some will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their husband will fix more things around the house.. So let it go, and love you and your circumstances.
Think about it!
The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.
And the most highly favored woman on your job may be unable to have children.
And the richest woman you know-she's got the car, the house, the clothes might be lonely.
'If I have not Loved, I am nothing.'
So, again, love you.
Love who you are.

Look in the mirror in the morning, smile and say, 'I am too Blessed to be Stressed and too Anointed, to be Disappointed!'

'Winners make things happen Losers let things happen.'

Be 'Blessed' Ladies and pass this on to encourage another woman.
'To the world you might be one person, but to that one person you just sent this too, it might mean the world to them!

cookies & cuties

2007-12-15T10:43:00.002+08:00

A beautiful Saturday morning, beautiful weather great company once again both physically & in spirit …. I was awaken by mom saying my niece and nephew were already here and it was only 730am .. There goes my chance of sleeping in I though but it was well worth it seeing I have two adorable little kiddies in my home. My nephew was asleep by the time I got out of bed and brushed my teeth and my niece a little dazed – poor baby ill bet she didn’t like the idea of having to wake that early in the am either haha anyways, there were here for a short visit and breakfast.

They were up that early cause they were sending their grandma off. After which the family dropped by for breakfast seeing how close the airport is to my place. It was nice having them here though it was pretty early. Anyways, while the others talked and baby ali slept, safa & her ati fah did some cookie frosting – her first time to do it and she was pretty excited about it. She is a curious one when it comes to cooking and enjoys helping my mom out when my moms making cakes over at grandmas. She is a little baker in the making I think who knows.

Anyways equipped with my cam I snapped pictures of her which is on the slide at the end of this entry. I’m thinking its never too early to snap pictures – yes I love taking pictures what can I say of family people and things around me *grin*. My niece was pretty excited about the whole frosting activity – I just enjoyed watching her put her heart and soul into it. Made me such a proud aunt. She frosted about 10 cookies all on her own and she was so proud of her achievement and I am too. My niece and her little masterpiece. I did one fowl up though, I used the same brush when mixing certain colors and she was told by her mom not too mix colors using the same brush ahaha I guess I am the one who will be teaching her the wrong thing but but I rectified the problem … I usually have a cup of water to wash the brushes but being it was early I forgot – hey I have to justify myself sometimes ….. anyways ..

She loved her cookies and kept saying ati fah can I eat the cookies can I eat the cookies she didn’t her own though she picked out the wedding cake cookie from the platter I frosted last night – smart little one isn’t she lol .

And so we had breakfast after, after about 2 hours they left to go home to Jb. Wished they had stayed longer but I guess they are trying to beat the traffic going into Johore. Saturday mornings are not the best time to go into Johore seeing everyone is going up there to shop and enjoy the weekend and seeing that it’s the school holidays here now I guess it just gets worst. But as short as the visit was I had fun – playing with my little nephew who can now roll and move rather quickly and watch my niece have a go at her first frosting session.

Here is a slideshow of the pics of the little artist at work and a picture of my nephew whose just woken up and looking a little daze .. If the slideshow doesn’t work the link for it is here

Other than have a little smile as you watch the antics of the little cuties..

http://www.slide.com/r/QHdIUyX8tj8KZ5p02ruFc3ak3t-Fp50v?previous_view=mscd_embedded_url&view=original

cookies & cuties

2007-12-15T10:43:00.001+08:00

Here is a slideshow of the pics of the little artist at work and a picture of my nephew whose just woken up and looking a little daze .. If the slideshow doesn’t work the link for it is here

Other than have a little smile as you watch the antics of the little cuties..

http://www.slide.com/r/QHdIUyX8tj8KZ5p02ruFc3ak3t-Fp50v?previous_view=mscd_embedded_url&view=original

Dear John , be a Goddess ...

2007-12-15T07:47:00.000+08:00

Nothing beats starting the day out with a nice cup of coffee, pleasant company and books – books reviews that it. Checking through my email I received Borders bookstore mailer with coupons and book reviews which I always love. I found two books that caught my eye and am seriously contemplating on buying them. But the thing is I still have my Love in Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez to read and I am half way through reading The Witch of Portobello by Paulo Coelho. These books are on my top 5 reads I hope to read by the end of the year so I do believe I am half way there. The other two books , Pay it Forward & Infidel I cant seem to get them here. and I have trimmed down my goals to read the top 5 books – but you never know , I rambled on too much off track .. :D

Anyways back to the 2 new books I am keen on purchasing. One of them is from Nicholas Sparks writer of The Notebook and my ever favorite tear jerker Message in a bottle which made me cry my eyes out heehee what can I say the movie & the book in some ways hit home. His new book sort of hits home too (after reading the synopsis that is) so I am keen on actually reading it – I think a little story book romance (literally) doesn’t hurt maybe it would actually do wonders for the soul. The title of this is simply ‘Dear John’

Dear John by Nicholas Sparks

An angry rebel, John dropped out of school and enlisted in the Army, not knowing what else to do with his life - until he meets the girl of his dreams, Savannah. Their mutual attraction quickly grows into the kind of love that leaves Savannah waiting for John to finish his tour of duty, and John wanting to settle down with the woman who has captured his heart. But 9/11 changes everything. John feels it is his duty to re-enlist. And sadly, the long separation finds Savannah falling in love with someone else. "Dear John," the letter reads... and with those two words, a heart was broken and two lives were changed forever. Returning home, John must come to grips with the fact that Savannah, now married, is still his true love - and face the hardest decision of his life.

Another book that caught my eye is Goddess - be the woman you want to be. I think what struck me about this book was its cover then again you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover but after reading the synopsis I think it would be worth it seeing its all about empowering women. Seeing it will 2008 in a few weeks the book would be perfect to start the year with – heh a new and improved groovy island girl .. ;)) .. Maybe ill just go and check this book and see if its really what the synopsis says it is ..

Goddess by Elizabeth Wilson

With its insider advice from more than 30 authors along with top celebrity secrets, Goddess contains all the inspiration you need to be smarter, sexier, more charismatic and endlessly creative. Whether it's a pay rise you're after, taking your love life to a new level, creating your dream garden or getting the dimples out of your bum cheeks - you will find the ultimate empowering tool to gain a simpler, more fulfilling, more successful and more exciting life!

And so its decision making time .. if I take that step and head out to Borders I know I am going to end up buying more than those two books and I still have another book waiting to be read .. what can I say im a book junkie …. Hmmm what to do what to do ?

Make Your Dreams Happen

2007-12-12T22:44:00.000+08:00

what can i say truly inspirational .. ;) enjoy all ...

"You've got to be willing to take risks. Dream big, set big goals,
and then work hard to make your dreams happen." ~ Jean Driscoll

Competitive paralympian athlete Jean Driscoll (1966-) was born in
Milwaukee, Wisconsin with spina bifida, a serious defect that caused
an open spine and cleft palate that left the nerves in her lower
body unconnected.

"I was humbled a lot as a child. I was teased. Left out. I resented
people who were so stuck on themselves," she admitted.

Although wheelchair bound, by age 13 the inspirational Driscoll was
biking over 12 miles a day. "Tell me I can't do that and I'm going
to do it," she said of her challenges. "I wanted to prove I was like
the other kids and could do the things other kids could do."

In 1988, Driscoll won four medals in the first Paralympic Games in
Seoul, South Korea. With determination, she has won the Boston
Marathon wheelchair race eight times. In 1999, Sports Illustrated
named her one of the top 100 athletes of the 20th century.

"I have a strong faith. I feel I've been blessed immensely. My
victories are not only mine. It's such a privilege to be where I
am," she said.

Called the best wheelchair marathon racer in the world, Driscoll won
Olympic silver medals in 1992 and 1996. With vision and drive, she
has taken her sport to a new level. "People thought athletes with
disabilities were courageous and inspirational, " she said. "They
never give them credit for simply being competitive. "

~~Dream big and set big goals.

Walking in Shadows

2007-11-29T23:35:00.000+08:00

Just a little something to think about .....

Walking in Shadows..

Thousands of faces, blank expressions, empty speech

Why is it so hard to reach out and touch somebody?

We walk in shadows, passing by but never stopping to open your eyes and see

Every person has a depth far beyond the masks that we wear

But how many people take the time to truly know somebody?

We listen but do not hear, we ask but do not question

What if the quiet, downcast girl beside you has a beautiful voice & sings like an angel?

What is the loud mouthed, brash belly goes home to write love songs to his number one crush?

What if we are not content to stay in the shadows anymore?

What if we want to be uncovered for who we really are?

How do we sell our souls?

Open Your Heart to Chocolate

2007-11-27T11:51:00.000+08:00

Open Your Heart to Chocolate

A new study by Japanese researchers will have chocoholics everywhere saying, "I told you so" to anyone who has ever criticized their hankering for cocoa.

Already linked to improved heart health in small does, researchers discovered compounds in dark chocolate also seem to also improve blood flow in the arteries. A compound called flavanoids, found in highest levels in dark chocolate, seems to be responsible for the positive effect. Study participants who ate white chocolate, which contains no flavanoids, had no improvement in blood flow.

But before you break out the candy bars, it's important to mention it took just 550 milligrams of dark chocolate, about the size of an aspirin, to gain the effect. Eat too much chocolate and the high fat and calorie content is likely to cancel out any cardiovascular gains, the experts say. So keep it in moderation. But go ahead and gleefully sprinkle a little ground dark chocolate in your coffee, on your berries, or atop your yogurt every day. Your heart will thank you! ..

source: IVillage Total Health

And so its prove chocolate is good for you hail chocolate :P for those so conscious about your health and irk at the thought of chocolate (you know who you are ;) ) hope this puts your mind to rest :p dark chocolates are actually good.

I have to admit out of all the dark chocolate i have eaten, Lindt makes the best dark chocolate. Hersheys special dark is a tad sweet. Lindt however is perfect depending on how dark you want it. I know they have one which is 85% cocoa the ultimate in dark chocolate. I have had the 75% cocoa is good too - i do believe its time to try the 85% cocoa. Another recommedation would be the Lindt Intense Orange - Dark chocolate with a touch of orange and almond flakes another yummy one.

Dark chocolate can be to make them into little candy cups. I use a table spoon to a table spoon honey and about 2 cups of dark chocolate. Melt them over a low heat, once its melted, pour into candy cups or add nuts if you like and let it set in the fridge. Its yummy too. Speaking of chocolate i have a cousin who survives on chocolate and nuts as her meal nothing else and she sure does look good. Im thinking its a good diet buti dont think i can survive just on chocolate and nuts though it is a sinfully delightful thought. Then of course you can always dip strawberries in chocolate for strawberry covered chocolate for oh those romantic nights with your love ones or just to indulge and get a little happiness going in our heads ;). You know what they say about chocolate and its effects on us women ;).

Im craving for chocolate now and will be raiding my fridge right after i finish this entry. But before i do, here is a delicious looking moist mouth watering dark chocolate cupcake with a little chocolate truffle on top.. ummmmmmmm heaven ... ;) I can actually taste the chocolate filling oozing out of the cupcake and onto my tongue ummm soooo deliciously sweet! umm umm umm ... ;)

Blog Question

2007-11-26T19:41:00.000+08:00

This is not a blog entry more like a question to whoever reads this blog entry. Its an interesting question so get as creative as you can when answering I am got giving my answer just yet .. just curious what others would say so here is the question ..

The responses i have had so far are a fly, gingerbread cookies ..

What would you wear for camouflage if you were hiding in a gingerbread house?

The responses i have had so far are a fly, gingerbread cookies .. whats yours? :P

Get cracking!

grrrrrr

2007-11-25T07:02:00.000+08:00

and when i was done with my early blog complete with pictures and all guess what multiply decided to do??? wipe it all out grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.. now i have to write it all over again and i am not happy about it.. well this wouldnt be the first time that this has happened maybe i am party to blame :P i should have typed it on word then cut and paste like i always do .. oh well lesson learnt time to re write the entry .. bleah .wish me luck ..btw i just realized multiply's smilies are not as cute as yahoos :D

heres looking at you kid ..

2007-11-23T07:27:00.000+08:00

pictures & memories

2007-11-19T11:48:00.001+08:00

Taking pictures of family and friends would serve its purpose in later days i would think. Because when someone close and dear to you passes on all thats left are pictures and memories. In the last four years or so i have attempted to take as many pictures as i can. and today i am so glad i did. even though pictures cant make you feel or touch the person but pictures can take you back to that day, the memory, the feeling, ttouch. I have taken many pictures of my grandmother who passed away a week ago today. Its pictures of the little things that we often over look. I am so glad i took those pictures because at least i know i have them to look at when i need a feel of her. These are little gestures like her eating, thinking talking. Its priceless and when the pain really sinks in which id does gradually you can look back and see the happy moments maybe that in itself will offer comfort.

Seeing a picture of her smiling brings back her voice .. watching her say no to cake when the maid is feeding reminds me of how she always shares whatever food the maid brings her. Asking us if we wanted it and sometimes she would even feed us. Thats just how special she is. Pictures of her comedic gestures reminds me of how funny she can be. Its just the little things that matter so much and thats what will be missed most about her.

So seriously taking lots of pictures is never a waste never is the investment in a digital camera because moments in life are worth capturing and keeping.

See more progress on: Take more pictures

mommy's glare

2007-11-17T06:53:00.000+08:00

Its a beautiful Saturday morning, the start of my very long school vacation and my attempts at healing and getting into the groove of writing again maybe that will help me take my mind of the loss of grandma recently.

I thought id start my blog with a little update from my favorite panda mei lan . she looked cute from Fridays updates and i thought her antics yesterday was adorable. i know i could relate to it. Lord knows theres been days when my own mom has glared at me the way lun lun glared at her own daughter. Mei reminds me of me when im trying to hide from mom when i get myself into trouble no hiding behind bushes more like behind sofas or completely out of sight heehee..

Pandas are so much like us especially when it comes to child rearing and being protective of their new borns. They show love and affection in a diffrent kind of way though no verbal they still feel it that love that bond. Maybe they do communicate verball in their own special panda language. A bond between a mother and child is a very special thing. No matter how the affection is shown or not, they love is still there and never dies. I am not a mom but when i am in class teaching i feel like i more than a teacher. The kids pay attention to you, they definitely wants your attention and expects you to tend to their every whiney demand heehee which its ok. They want them to heal their boo boos, expect you to comfort them - i think i many ways thats what a mother does. They love their kids even when they mess up and proud as a peacock when they have accomplished something. Thats how i feel about my little pre schoolers. I think i miss them already ;)) So anyways heres the update on my favorite panda and her glaring mom.. Have a great weekend all..

November 16th 2007

This morning showed me that I think Lun Lun is starting to get a little annoyed with Mei Lan. Of course, when Mei is up, she wants to play a lot or nurse. Lun, though, is not as obliging as she has been in the past, but Mei still does all she can to get a reaction out of her mom. Anyway, back to my point, when they were being put outside this morning, Lun was ready to go, being near the door, and Mei was down the hallway. Once the door was opened, Mei came running toward it, but Lun stopped her with a glare. She just turned her head and stared at Mei, causing her to stop dead in her tracks. Then, Mei turned the opposite way and walked away, while Lun headed out into the habitat. It took another 30 minutes for Mei to head out and rejoin her mother, which of course, delayed my routine by that much. I had never seen Lun do this before; in the past, she had pushed Mei off, but nothing like this. We’ll just have to wait and see if this is a continuing trend or just a one-time thing.
Joseph T. Svoke
Carnivore Keeper II

Eid - Etiquette & Ruling

2007-10-11T23:29:00.000+08:00

I received this write up about Eid from my aunt and figured I would share it. It’s the etiquettes and practices of Eid and what Eid is all about. This is Eid etiquettes in the general sense. Though different cultures have their own costumes and food and customs the basic practices of Eid are universal. This is a reminder to me as well and information for those who are curious about the Muslim festival Eid – a time of celebration and victory after a month of fasting. I have attached a file of what the takbir sounds like and how mesmerizing it is and how much it sinks deep into ones soul .. The explanation of the takbir is in the write up below...

here is the link to the takbir ..

http://profile.imeem.com/MOrwP_/music/hVc8Jsn6/unknown_intro_takbir_hari_raya/

Eid: Etiquette & Rulings

`Eid, in Islam, is a day of joy, thanksgiving, worship, brotherhood, solidarity, and morality. A Muslim should take the advantage of this day to bring himself nearer to Allah, Most High.

As regards your question, we'd like to cite the following comprehensive fatwa issued by Sheikh M. S. Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi Islamic lecturer and author:

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Every nation has its festival, and this is your festival.” Here, he referred to the fact that these two `Eids are exclusively for the Muslims.

The Muslims have no festivals apart from `Eidul-Fitr and `Eidul-Adha. Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) came to Al-Madinah, the people of Madinah used to have two festivals. On those two days they had carnivals and festivity. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) asked the Ansar (the Muslims of Madinah) about it. They replied that before Islam they used to have carnivals on those two joyous days. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) told them: "Instead of those two days, Allah has appointed two other days which are better, the days of `Eidul-Fitr and `Eidul-Adha." (Reported by Abu Dawud)

These two `Eids are among the signs of Allah, to which we must show consideration and understand their objectives. Below, we will elaborate the rulings and etiquette of `Eid.

Rulings of `Eid

1. Fasting: It is haram to fast on the days of `Eid because of the hadith of Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) in which he said that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade fasting on the day of Fitr and the day of Adha. (Reported by Muslim)

2. Offering `Eid Prayers: Some of the scholars say that `Eid Prayers are Wajib (obligatory) – this is the view of the Hanafi scholars and of Sheikh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah. Some scholars say that `Eid Prayer is Fard Kifayah (a communal duty, binding on the Muslims as a group, and it is fulfilled if a sufficient number of people perform it, thereby absolving the rest of sin). This is the view of the Hanbalis. A third group say that `Eid Prayer is Sunnah Mu'akkadah. This is the view of the Malikis and Shafi`is.

3. Offering Supererogatory Prayers: There are no Supererogatory Prayers to be offered either before or after the `Eid Prayer, as Ibn `Abbas reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to come out on the day of `Eid and pray two Rak`ahs, with nothing before or after them. This is the case if the Prayer is offered in an open area. If, however, the people pray the `Eid Prayer in a mosque, then they should pray two Rak`ahs for Tahiyat Al-Masjid.

4. Women attending the `Eid Prayers: According to the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) everyone is urged to attend `Eid Prayer, and to co-operate with one another in righteousness and piety. The menstruating woman should not forsake the remembrance of Allah or places of goodness such as gatherings for the purpose of seeking knowledge and remembering Allah – apart from mosques. Women, undoubtedly, should not go out without the Hijab.

Etiquette of `Eid

1. Ghusl (taking a bath): One of the good manners of `Eid is to take bath before going out to the Prayer. It was reported that Sa`id ibn Jubayr said: “Three things are Sunnah on `Eid: to walk (to the prayer-place), to take a bath, and to eat before coming out (if it's `Eidul-Fitr).”

2. Eating before coming out: One should not come out to the prayer-place on `Eidul-Fitr before eating some dates, because of the hadith narrated by Al-Bukhari from Anas ibn Malik who said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) would not go out in the morning of `Eidul-Fitr until he had eaten some dates… and he would eat an odd number.” On `Eidul-Adha, on the other hand, it is Mustahab (recommended) not to eat until after the Prayer, when one should eat from the meat of one’s sacrifice.

3. Takbir on the day of `Eid:This is one of the greatest Sunnahs of this day. Al-Daraqutni and others reported that when Ibn `Umar came out on `Eidul-Fitr and `Eidul-Adha, he would strive hard in making Takbir until he reached the prayer-place, then he would continue making Takbir until the Imam came.

4. Congratulating one another: People may exchange congratulations and good greetings on `Eid, no matter what form the words take. For example they may say to one another, “Taqabbal Allahu minnaa wa minkum (may Allah accept from us and from you our good deeds!)". Jubayr ibn Nufayr said: “At the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) when people met one another on the day of `Eid, they would say, ‘Taqabbal Allahu minnaa wa minka.’” (Reported by Ibn Hajar)

5. Wearing one's best clothes for `Eid: Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) had a Jubbah (cloak) that he would wear on `Eid and on Fridays.” Al-Bayhaqi reported that Ibn `Umar used to wear his best clothes on `Eid, so men should wear the best clothes they have when they go out for `Eid.

6. Changing route on returning from Prayer-place:Jabir ibn `Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to change his routes on the day of `Eid. (Reported by Al-Bukhari)

Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: (www.islam-qa.com)

..Ummi . my mother

2007-10-09T14:00:00.000+08:00

Ummi is the Arabic word for mother and that’s what I call my mom, Ummi … the most amazing woman I know. A woman with a heart a woman I love dearly more it seems with each passing there ..

My mom is the favorite of all my cousins first second third. In our household all our aunts are given the title ‘Ati’. There is Ati Pak, Ati Noor so and so forth. It’s the title Ati followed by their names. But my mom is the only one with the title “ati’ simply Ati and that for me shows me how she stands out.

I felt like writing about her because in recent weeks she has been like a beacon of hope and realization – her spirit seems to be shining through more than usual. Like most of the women of her generation and my grandmother’s generation, their fighting spirit is one to be admired. Her kindness, compassion and giving nature seem to shine through even more than ever. What I took for granted in her before was something I saw and admired and love her more in recent weeks. I look at her and think to myself wow that’s my ummi – she’s is truly an amazing person. Her appreciation for people and family is something she instills in me since I was little. Her forgiving nature. My mom is one tough cookie when it comes to affection and in reminding me that she loves me – but her action speaks louder more than words ever could. Sometimes id have to ask her to give me a kiss or a hug and she would resist but a little cajoling usually makes her come through J) see emotions don’t come easy for her but in so many little ways I know how much she loves me and that satisfies me ..

During iftar and when we are in the kitchen together, that is the time when we really get to talk to each other about basically anything life, love, cakes, food just about anything. She has fed my soul with much enlightment sometimes by mere words sometimes just her actions. She has made me laugh with her antics, and silliness even when I felt like being a brat heehee yeah some us get to be brats even at our age *grin*. She listens though sometimes she doesn’t agree she tries to understand. I think these days she been more than a mother to me. She is my best friend.

My mother is a hard worker and very strong willed. In spite of the good life she was born into and the good life she was married into, my mom remains a hard worker. When we were sitting down making cookies we talked and she was tired, she said to me you know when I was young I would make cakes from morning to night. I had so much strength then and your dad wouldn’t be happy ;)). He would say cant you stop making the cakes by evening time. She wasn’t happy when he said that last thing she needed after a long day was him nagging at her – I laughed and thought wow – I thought it was cute and yes they are a cute couple loving happy … match made in heaven.

Just for the record his words were out of love not anger. He supported her in her passion for baking even though he could support them both. I suppose he understood her love for it.

My mother loves baking and decorating and she took her love for that and made it into a business – something she has done for the past 50 years. She still makes them now though it tires her more than usual so that’s where I come in but this blog is about her so we can leave m out of it for now ;)). In making cakes, I have seen my mothers giving nature. How she sets aside say about 4 types of cakes and cookies for each of her remaining 5 siblings and the daughter of her late sister. Tired or not she will make it a point every year to make something for them free of charge of course and on top of that she gives away of the cakes to friends and this year my second cousins in Malaysia got a taste of her giving nature. They placed an order for cakes and cookies but she is giving it to them for free. It probably doesn’t seem like a big deal to some – but for someone who earns a living making cakes I think that was a kind to do – again reminding me how much she appreciates family.

While we were mixing the batter yesterday, I was standing there mixing and putting in spices – we were making kuih lapis (it’s a spice layered cake) one of her specialties, I felt like what I was doing was familiar. For a moment in time I felt like I was her I am not sure if that made any sense but for a moment I was her , my ummi and I recalled when as a little girl I would watch her mix the batter, bake the cake and she would let me try some of it – the batter that is. I was really happy .. and it felt good being her for that moment in time .. going back in time .. What an experience ….

What a Ramadan this has been for me and her. I saw so much in her and it seems I love her even more now than ever. Her sacrifices, her hard work, her dedication, her unconditional love ., her caring nature, her giving nature, her compassions and kindness… that’s the best stuff and im blessed she has it because I am blessed she is my Ummi … the biggest blessing ever ..

Chance Encounters

2007-10-09T13:46:00.000+08:00

Its lunchtime now at work. Since I am fasting and today is the 27^th of Ramadan, I decided to blog a little since I have been out of touch with the blog world ;)) .. Too tired I think but anyways, my muse came back for a tad this afternoon so I decided to write a little.

Off late I have talked to many people who have been given second chances – in life in love. Their encounters with total strangers have changed their lives for the better. Its brought smiles, happiness and faith in into their lives. Based on the stories I hear, and the enthusiasm I see in many of them I came up with this entry about chance encounters… anyone else has had chance encounters that completely turned their lives around? Do tell ..

I had my own chance encounter two years ago and trust me it’s really changed my life. I don’t have regrets with that encounter which took place on a late October night back in 2005 – if anything it’s brought so much to my life – more than I bargained for but worth every single moment. … inspite of it all ...

This little entry is for you Hannah & Mark,, Ruth & her mystery man, Bryan & Sarah Ann, Lisa & Jerry , Eric & Marielle and those people who would kill me if I mentioned their names .. Enjoy the bliss of chance encounters & second chances my friends…

Chance Encounters

Life is often surprising to me

Chance encounters with total strangers

Who at first instant makes an impression

A quick one at that ..

That first word, that first meeting

All opens the way for a positive turn around ..

It keeps you on your feet

Gives you butterflies in your stomach.

The chance encounter brings laughter & smiles

When that was non existent

You question the encounters, yet thankful

It seems some chance encounters makes you come alive again ..

To some chance encounters brings about hope

The chance to love again

The chance to live again

It’s a chance to see life with positive ness

A chance to live our dreams.

A chance to be happy once again..

The chance encounters

Brings forth something that you’ve always wanted

It reminds you of what it feels to be wanted

It brings back

Shared laughter

Shared love

Shared hope

Shared dreams

Shared wants & needs …

It gives you something to look forward too

At the end of the day

When you get lonely

When you need to show affection

or need intimacy & romance

the chance encounters

Gives you that..

The chance encounters brings forth answered prayers,

A second chance at love,

A new beginning ..

The fear that once resides

Is a thing of the past..

No more tears of hurt, just tears of happiness,

The hearts happy again, jumping with glee,

Chance encounters the positivity it brings ..

And the passion it ignites ……

Stronger For It - Mending A Broken Heart

2007-10-04T23:55:00.000+08:00

A story I think we all relate that ever painful, stomach churning feeling of having our hearts broken, our trust betrayed our lives take a complete turn around as we deal with a hearts that been shattred and love betrayed. Sounds overly dramatic don’t but we have been through it. But time does heal all wounds – sure you say but it does eventually if you let it.

Here is an article for all those whose heart been broken or is going through the process in mending a broken heart. It does get better eventually ……… Moral of the story what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger & wiser …. I hope .. ;))

Stronger For It
Mending A Broken Heart

Heartbreak happens to all of us and can wash over us like a heavy rain. When experiencing a broken heart, our ethereal selves are saturated with grief, and the overflow is channeled into the physical body. Loss becomes a physical emptiness, and longing is transmuted into a feeling that often cannot be put into words. Mending a broken heart can seem a task so monumental that we dare not attempt it for fear of damaging ourselves further. But heartbreak, like all emotions, falls under the spell of our conscious influence.

Often the pain that wounds us most deeply also leaves the most enduring mark upon us. The shock that becomes the tender, throbbing ache of the heart eventually leads us down the path of enlightenment, blessing our lives with a new depth and richness.

Acknowledging heartbreak's impermanence by no means dulls its sting for it is the sting itself that stimulates healing. The pain is letting us know that we need to pay attention to our emotional selves, to sit with our feelings and be in them fully before we can begin to heal. It is said that time heals all wounds. Time may dull the pain of a broken heart, but it is fully feeling your pain and acknowledging it that will truly help you heal.

Dealing with your heartache in a healthy way rather than putting it off for tomorrow is the key to repair. Gentleness more than anything else is called for.

Most important, open yourself to the possibility of loving, trusting, and believing again. When, someday soon, you emerge from the cushion of your grief, you will see that the universe did not cease to be as you nursed your broken heart. You emerge on the other side of the mending, stronger for all you have experienced.

Source: http://www.daily.com /

Toward the Rainbow

2007-10-03T23:56:00.000+08:00

"You will achieve a grand dream, a day at a time, so set goals for each day -- not long and difficult projects, but chores that will take you, step by step, toward your rainbow.

Write them down, if you must, but limit your list so that you won't have to drag today's undone matters into tomorrow.

Remember that you cannot build your pyramid in twenty-four hours.

Be patient.

Never allow your day to become so cluttered that you neglect your most important goal -- to do the best you can, enjoy this day, and rest satisfied with what you have accomplished."

-- Og Mandino

I like this quote. It gives you a clearer idea on how to set your goals. I tend to make long lists that are hard to keep up. This quote gives a direction and a gentle reminder that patience is crutial in achieving what you want. In between trying to get back to school, work , personal issues and the business - it does get a little overwhelming because you want everything to turn out well and quickly. I guess you just want that rainbow in your hands in a minimum amount of time .......................... but what you really to do is be patience, do your best and everything will just fall into place..... i hope..

Love is Life ...

2007-10-02T23:56:00.000+08:00

In remembrance of one of the greatest figures ever lived. A man who throughout his life, Gandhi remained committed to non-violence and truth even in the most extreme situations. A student of Hindu philosophy, he lived simply, organizing an ashram that was self-sufficient in its needs. Making his own clothes—the traditional Indian dhoti and shawl woven with a charkha—he lived on a simple vegetarian diet. He used rigorous fasts, for long periods, for both self-purification and protest. More information about him can be found here ….
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahatma_Gandhi

The man who lived a simple life teaches much about truth, love, peace. In remembering this great figure here is a story abut him on his lessons about love – Love of all kinds..

Love is Life..

"Where there is love there is life." ~ Mahatma Gandhi
A man of love, born on this day in Porbandar, India, Mohandas
Karamchand Gandhi (1869-1948), led the Indian nationalist movement
and was later known as Mahatma ("great soul").

"We must be the change we wish to see in the world," he said.

Change the world, he did. Dedicating his life to Indian independence
and Hindu-Moslem cooperation, he did more than anyone else in
history to advance the practice of nonviolent resistance and non-
cooperation, inspiring Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King, Jr., and
others.

"My life is my message," said the great spiritual leader who lived
his life with the celebration of truth.

With the establishment of the Satyagraha ("steadfastness in truth")
League in 1919, he taught that the way people behaved mattered more
than what they achieved.

"Non-violent revolution is not a program of seizure of power," he
said. "It is a program of transformation of relationships, ending in
a peaceful transfer of power."

In 1920, Gandhi began a hand spinning and weaving program to promote
social, political, and economic freedom. He also fought to improve
the status of the lowest classes of Indian society, the casteless

Untouchables whom he called harijans ("children of God").

"Think of the poorest person you have ever seen," said Gandhi, "and
ask if your next act will be of any use to him."

Repeatedly imprisoned for his boycotts, he resorted to hunger
strikes of civil disobedience that eventually led to his country's
independence in 1947 after two and half centuries of British rule.

One of history's greatest teachers, Albert Einstein once wrote of
Gandhi: "Generations to come, it may be, will scarce believe that
such a one as this ever in flesh and blood walked upon this earth."

Love.

source: http://www.dailyinspirations.com
http://www.wikipedia.com/

dreams, inspirations & mankind ..

2007-10-02T23:29:00.000+08:00

Superficiality – that’s what this world is made off. What you see is not always you get then you question your worth. You think maybe this and this or this or that. Just my opening thoughts for my blog .. Seems like reflective times are upon us again – oh what fun *rolls eyes* ..

Today marks the end of the 20^th day of Ramadan – 10 more days and it’s gone. I almost forgot when we started. I think I have forgotten a lot lately. Anyways, another earthquake hit Sumatra again this morning at about 10.45am. It was 6.4 on the Richter scale. No major damage was done and most importantly no lives were lost. I think the earthquakes in Sumatra this month was on an all time high. I hope when Eid comes it will be a much better situation no earthquakes so they can celebrate the Eid in a more peaceful manner but then what is peace anyways. When one country celebrates Eid in peace another welcomes it with gun fire and suicide bombers.

I’ve been contemplating life, faith yet again. It isn’t easy being Muslim in this day and age. All the associations some of us get with terrorist can be quiet overwhelming. Call it the lack of education call it media propaganda whatever it is its never easy. Some people have been quiet tolerant while others let you know that being what you are makes you as bad as the other Muslims who perform such barbaric acts. It annoys me and I try to be as civil as I can. Trying to explain myself and just for the record I for one never make excuses for the acts of terrorism performed by the so called jihadist. I condemn terrorism in all its forms and there are many other Muslims like myself who do so.

In trying to find my way with my faith and in being a better Muslim and human being – the radical acts of some other people both Muslim and non Muslim alike makes it tough – but I guess that’s when you learn and that’s when you faith is being tested – its either you stray or you stay.

Every Tuesday night I am reminded again about the blessings I have in my life even though my life is far from perfect. It broke my heart last night seeing the less privileged on television – how little they have yet their spirits are strong. From a husband who with his chronic illnesses can’t work leaving the wife to be the soul breadwinner to the golden couple who wasn’t going to use poverty as an excuse to let them get left behind. A mother who on national television cried with her son when he said if you and dad died I have no one to take care of me – tears came from him and from her and all she said to him be strong like mom ok be strong like mom ok .. I couldn’t help but cry with them. All these special folks were part of the Islamic religious councils group of people who received help from the zakat money collected. Money is channeled to a life long learning program that helps Muslims in this country better themselves so they can get good jobs. This is of course for those who can’t afford it. The ‘golden couple’ as they were called took courses after courses and now they destined for better times and places. The husband and wife team who studied together and took the exams together now can provide a better life for their children. What an inspiration!

When I look at them and I think about Muslims whose agenda is different it makes me wonder. In recent days they have been suicide bombings in Pakistan and Afghanistan and these are the two countries that obviously propagate radical Islam. Without thought or conscience they answer ben ladens call to blow themselves up. Downright stupidity don’t you think? When you can encourage peace and prayer in Ramadan why call for a holy war? I see Muslims in my own country and Muslims in another – I am always thankful that I was brought up where I am and the teachings I received as a kid. Again we have Muslims who are struggling for something they know nothing about nor understand then we have a group of Muslims who are struggling day after day to make their lives better. From what I see the radicals take the short cut – blow themselves out – they think they are guaranteed heaven because they did for a cause – but I think not. Then you have the family who has a different kind of struggle, they take the long non easy way to make life better – that is Islam struggling to make things better for yourself and others not my means of violence but by hard work and common sense.

I haven’t really addressed this in a while not in the wider sense maybe because I am just tired of it. I am stayed away from the news for a while now – you see the same ole but when you’re online the news is just in your face – you cant help but read it.

Ramadan is a special month of blessings and miracles and I wish the people who promote violence, animosity and hatred will see that. Why blow themselves up when you can use this month do to good for mankind? Stopping violence and working in trying to secure peace and understand is crucial.

I hope someday we can see a world of peace where we love not hate respect not disrespect. Live in harmony with people of all races and religions. Love your fellow man, respect & tolerate.

Dream … it doesn’t hurt to dream of a world like that ..

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

2007-10-01T23:57:00.001+08:00

October 1st marks the beginning of the month long Breast Cancer Awareness Month 2007. This event is celebrated by women from all over the world.

Breast Cancer Awareness Month is an annual international health campaign organized by major breast cancer charities every October to increase awareness of the disease and to raise funds for research into its cause, prevention and cure. The campaign also offers information and support to those affected by breast cancer. As well as providing a platform for breast cancer charities to raise awareness of their work and of the disease, BCAM is also a prime opportunity to remind women to be breast aware for earlier detection.

The pink ribbon is a symbol of breast cancer awareness and its been adopted by women all over the world in support for the cause.

So this October show your support by wearing a pink ribbon, wearing pink, overhauling your website to pink and finding out more about breast cancer and how you can help. :)

just a monday

2007-10-01T23:57:00.000+08:00

Happy Monday! Happy Children’s’ Day! Happy Start of a brand new week!
Another Monday ends, so does the 19^th day of Ramadan. Next ten days will be the most important and crucial of days in this month. One of these nights holds the night of power one of the most powerful night. During the next ten nights people will be pushing themselves to the limit in their prayers & supplications because prayers, supplications, good deeds and remembrance of Allah (dzikir) will bear more fruit than any other day or night.

Today is Children’s Day for kids and kids at heart ;)) well I made up the former. School is out for today. Here in Singapore it’s celebrated on October 1^st unlike other places which celebrate it in June. We had the celebrations for the kids at school last Friday. I am thinking it was a long weekend of celebration for these kids, sleeping in, not having to wake up for school – happiness for them ;)) .. For the teachers too lol . I am just tired and all I can think about is vacation vacation vacation – even for a day ill take it - I guess I’ve set my mind for vacation mode ;)) ….. Only 45 more days to go *rolls eyes*

Much of today was spent un cluttering and some reading and lots of relaxation and yet its all never enough. I want more time more time ;)) .. I have to start doing some major cleaning before the eid and I have about 11 days to do it. sounds like a lot of time – but in between work and the cakes I am not so sure but then again some of us work well under pressure :D ……….

I actually enjoy cleaning un cluttering whatever you want to call that moment when you are very domesticated – even in spite of the dust and sweat you still feel like a domestic goddess *grin* . Un cluttering helps clear the mind, I think it gives you a sense of renewal when you either throw or give away things you’ve had. Call it spiritually cleansing through cleaning & giving ;)). I actually enjoy cleaning lol arranging and re arranging things. I mean this is my home if I don’t clean it who will right?

I have not really been in the blogging mood – could I be all blogged out? Is there ever a situation like that? I am not even very excited about the coming Eid. I don’t know why – maybe so much have been happening I think I am just way too over whelmed to feel anything. If there is one person who is excited about the coming festival is my mom. I just smile and go along with whatever she wants.

I think I am going through that phase again.. I need to rekindle my passion, reclaim my muse & awaken my spirit … any ideas how??? ;)) .. Though time on a deserted paradise island with my hearts desire would do the trick …

Nites world .. blog ya laters ..